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to be considering moving to the perfect place because the lack of nightlife?

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 08:53

I found a house that seems perfect for us, close to a really good school and in a lovely area (Wandsworth / Southfields). But I'm afraid it will take forever to get anywhere, or to go out at night (I am single and need my friends and my social life!).

Which areas are good to go out around Wandsworth? What are your thoughts? Um.... Quick quick, I have to give a reply to the landlady! :D

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 08:55

Oh sorry, the title was ment to be "to be considering NOT moving to the perfect place because the lack of nightlife?"

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alicet · 10/08/2010 08:59

1 - If you are single with children (hence needing good school) then will you really get to go out that often?

2 - If single with no children then I wouldn't be worrying about the school

My sister used to live near Wandsworth (can't remember exactly where though as it was ages ago). She certainly didn't struggle with finding places to go out

expatinscotland · 10/08/2010 09:01

IMO, when you have kids, your need for nightlife is second fiddle to living in the best area you can for them.

It's not forever they stay young.

How do you go out at night if you're single, anyhow? Are your kids older? How on Earth do you afford it, you must earn a fortune.

Megatron · 10/08/2010 09:03

Take the house! I'd go for the quieter area with good schooling. Yes you do need to go out but I wouldn't consider that the most important thing about where you move to, it's got to be what's best for you AND your children. It can't be totally impossible to get anywhere from Wandsworth/Sounthfields surely?

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 09:05

My ex-partner would babysit on weekends. We are good friends. And I also have very close friends who are good with children.

Of course DD needs come first. But I am young and want to have a life too! The thing is I picture Wandsworth like a really familiar place, where nothing really is going on and that it's very far away from the city centre (of course, I might be wrong, don't know the area very well, that's why I'm asking!)

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expatinscotland · 10/08/2010 09:12

Yes, but your need to go out is secondary to the best place possible for your child.

It's possible to have a life without going out at night often.

But, well, do what you must.

AngryPixie · 10/08/2010 09:15

Where exactly? Southfields is on the district line so easy to get into central London, earlsfield has the mainline into clapham junction/Waterloo. There are some great pubs in Wandsworth. More info on location needed

Megatron · 10/08/2010 09:17

Why do you think you wouldn't have a life if you move there? It may be a bit quieter than what you're used to but seriously, if your DD's needs genuinely do come first, wouldn't it be better to move there? You can still go out, it just may take a bit more organising but surely still doable. Would be a no brainer for me.

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 09:20

But wouldn't there be other place that is also safe and with good schools and only 25 min. or so from the center?

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 09:27

Enough! I already said YES to the flat :D Now please talk to me about all the good things that there are in Wandsworth! :DDDD

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alicet · 10/08/2010 09:27

If there was presumably you would be moving there.

So I'm guessing you have looked somewhere outside your comfort zone because you can't get what you want where you prefer to live.

I am with others that your dds needs have to come first and you need to suck it up and put up with a little bit of inconvnenience

VinegarTits · 10/08/2010 09:31

If you are not sure about it then dont take it, what is it like where you live now? are you desperate to move or could you hold on until your find somewhere inbetween

There is no point in mvoing to the back of beyond if its going to make you miserable, if you are happy then your dc will be happy

Im single, i dont earn a fortune but i still have a social life

Megatron · 10/08/2010 09:31

An it'll be fine! You might find you like living somewhere a bit quieter. Maybe you could take up knitting or join the WI? Grin

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 09:31

Yes, the areas that were closer and in our budget I didn't really like... I found the North either too gritty or terribly expensive.

But surely, there are other nice areas too in London... Oh my I hope I've done the good thing :S

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 09:32

MEgatron, what is WI?

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VinegarTits · 10/08/2010 09:32

oh x-posts i see you have already accepted, hope it works out for you, im sure you will find a why to still go out Smile

VinegarTits · 10/08/2010 09:33

way

Megatron · 10/08/2010 09:44

The Women's Institute, sorry, I was being facetious. It's always a bit scary moving to a new area but you might love it!

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 09:45

Ah Megatron!!! You're so bad :P But yes, it did cross my mind to start learning how to make crochet and that kind of stuff ;)

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EggsandBacon · 10/08/2010 09:46

You will love it!!! I'm actually uber jealous - we just moved away from Wandsworth as we couldn't afford a house there (am pregnant with first). We'd have loved to have stayed. There are loads of places to go in Wandsworth, and (guessing from your description of Wandsworth/Southfields) I'm guessing you're near Earlsfield train station, which is zone 3 and 12mins to Waterloo. The trains run late, so you can still go out in town.

But there are plenty of places in Wandsworth to go out - I'd recommend the following areas (not sure which will be closest for you):

  • Old York Road (where Wandsworth Town rail station is) - restaurants, a few bars and a nice pub called The Alma, it's always busy around there
  • Northcote Road (to the east side of Wandsworth Common) - tonnes of bars here, great for shopping too
  • Bellevue Road (the southside of Wandsworth Common) - more upmarket restaurants, and The Hope pub which is always v busy
  • Trinity Road (to the west side of Wandsworth Common) - there is a pub on this called The County Arms which is good on a Saturday night

There are also lots of places in Earlsfield near the train station, my mate likes going out there.

IMO Wandsworth is one of the best places to live in London, you've got everything there plus you are only ever 10 - 15mins from the centre by train. I'm so jealous!! If you want to know anything else about the area, let me know...

Megatron · 10/08/2010 09:51

That sounds brilliant, I want to move there myself now!

Rocky12 · 10/08/2010 09:54

Blimey, Wandsworth. There is tons to do. Come and live where we do in the Home Counties, there is nothing much here. Wandsworth is really trendy. I was brought up in West London myself, miss it every day tbh. My DH likes the country, we tried to meet in the middle but it is not really the same.... Would go back to West London (and Wandsworth in a heart beat!)

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 16:58

Thank you Eggsandbacon! Yes, I am going to be close to the train station. The school DD will be attending is Allfarthing... only read good things about it, even though it sounds like "All farting" XD

So I guess now I'll be going out less in the Candem/Angel area and more in Southbank/Waterloo? Interesting! The Hope pub sounds really good too. I like the name ;-)

I know Northcote road and I love it! So many nice shops and restaurants! I wish the place where I'm going to live was like that, but I guess it'll be much more quieter.

I am very happy with the decision. I look at the pictures of my new home and I think we'll be very happy there. Thanks to all for giving your advice! :-)

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