Have been invited to my great auntie's 90th bday party in late November. It is at a posh hotel, sit-down meal, etc, etc and I really do not want to take my dts who will be just a month shy of 2yo then. They are a nightmare even when we've taken them to the local softplay centre they've screamed (hysterically) all through the meal there and hate being confined to a small space so we will be constantly running after them. Also, my mother who is organising the celebration loves comparing my 'badly behaved' children with my brother's 'easy children'. I have said that I will go but only take my dd1 (6yo) but this was not looked on favourably by my mother who told me I shouldn't 'imprision' the dts. She has no idea how bloody difficult the dts are and how stressed out I am with them on a daily basis. I understand that the family doesn't get together that often and of course they all want to see how the dts have grown, etc, but should I put myself through it?