To love my MIL?

[Marjee]

How about a lighthearted monday thread? I've read so many threads on here about horrible in-laws and its made me realise how lucky I am! When dh and I got married my MIL took me to one side and told me how happy she was that her son had found someone who makes him happy, gave me a big hug and said welcome to the family. They are such lovely people I feel truly blessed, sure they can wind me up at times but thats what families do! Surely I'm not the only one?

Mines a good un too

YANBU at all, I love my MIL, she's never been anything other than sweet, supportive and good fun.

I love mine too. She can be hard work at times (she's a real worrywort) but she is kind and lovely. Before DD was born when we both worked FT she used to come and clean our flat for us once a week, and do all the ironing. She still comes most weeks and takes me and DD out for lunch.

I've told my MIL that she is a disappointment to me as i can't join in any of the MIL bashing threads with my own tales of woe!

I love mine too

Oddly, she DOES have virtually all of the qualities/quirks/antediluvian attitudes that traditionally drive DILS mad

she is controlling, she is a Tory, she can be rude and dismissive and she is obsessed with money and status etc

BUT these are surface qualities and underneath them she ADORES her sons and would actually lay down and die for us and our children if she thought we needed her too

I have a mother who is actually a nasty, selfish bully at root - she really, genuinely does not care about anyone but herself and never will.

So I can put up with dh's mother being a PITA, because I know she is just a fallible, thorny human being like the rest of us (and I am damn sure I annoy the hell out of her too!) and because there is LOVE there, and if there is one thing I have learned from all the grief and pain my mother has caused me it is that to throw away real love is bloody stupid. In fact I envy dh that he has a mother who cares enough about him to criticise his choices and badger him about saving money and not smoking etc.

that has made me cry a bit actually

yep my MIL is lovely i admire her and love her, but got to say she is family and therefore hard work, but i defiantly wouldn't swap her for the world

Glad its not just me! My in-laws are a 4 hour drive away so we don't see as much of them as we'd like but I know they'd drop everything if we needed them. Some of these threads really make me count my blessings

mine's ace too. yes, she has her foibles and quirks that are irritating, but doesn't everyone?

She loves DD, she never comments on my parenting, and wants us all to be happy without interfering. She lives 30mins drive away, and is still working, but will always babysit if she can.

Lovely thread! I love my MIL too. She drives me up the wall sometimes but so did my own mother, who has sadly passed away. I am very grateful that dd has a Nana who loves her so fiercely. She's old fashioned and sometimes judgy but as others have said it's only because she cares. I am always telling DH to count his blessings, she won't be here forever.

Mine's great too - just got off the phone from 1 1/2 hour chat. She is lovely and positive. She has been doing lots of knitting for our baby and even sends me pictures to check I like what she is making before she starts.

I love my MIL too - shame she lives quite far away, so I don't see her as often as I like.

I love mine. I'd love her a little less if she lived next door though

Love my MIL too - I'm very similar to her in some ways, even down to brief first marriage before meeting love of my life (her son! For her, my DH's father).

I love the fact that she's very different to my mother, so I feel like I've got an extra mother, without ever comparing the two. My mum is very gentle and fairly easily shocked, my MIL has very different sense of humour. Am very blessed.

PS But do ask me again after PIL have come to live in our neighbourhood for four months to help with DC1 - they usually live in Florida (DH is American).

I feel a bit bogus joining in on this thread, but I do love my DD's paternal grandparents, so I'm gonna have my say! Wonderful and lovely people who would do anything for anyone. Raise their boys right, got my DD a wonderful father because of them. So....much love for my sort of MIL here!

YANBU - my MIL is sweet also. She is a bit strange and her cooking is just wierd and horrible but she loves my son and she seems to value me. I really feel for her because FIL must drive her mad - I always want her to have a torrid affair or take up sky-diving or something.