DP and I have decided to live seperately as the house is too small and we are both used to living independantly and we can't tolerate each other's kids. We were supposed to be carrying on the relationship, just in different accomodation but since then he's just said various things that makes me realise he doesn't care about me at all. I think he wants to convienience of a weekend girlfriend without the hassle of having to live with her kids.
I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt as he is bad with communication but today he's really upset me. Basically he keeps going on about how it will be so much better when we live seperately as we need the space, he needs "space" and he kept saying after I'd gone he'd NEVER have anyone live with him again as he's no good with other people's kids and he just wants it to be him and his child living here until she leaves school. Just the two of them. But then today he said very casually "oh, I wonder if Jason (his ex-wife's son, not his own) would move in after you've gone as a lodger?"
I said "I thought you wanted to live by yourself?? that's what you keep telling me" and he quickly changed to say "yeah, I was joking, don't worry". I said "you were not joking, why did you say that??" and he said "oh I was just thinking of the money that's all, it was a stupid thing to say, sorry"
I'm really upset by it. Its like he can't wait to get rid of us as he "needs his own space" but is already considering having his EX's kid move in to take our place.
AIBU?