to think that a consultant should live in a reasonably clean house

[wagonweel]

The property next door to us has been let for about a year now. This weekend they have moved out and the owners have just come round with an industrial cleaning firm to have the house gutted.

They offered me a peep inside as they were horrified at the disgusting filthy state of the property. We have never really spoken to the family as they pretty much keep themeselves to themeselves, although we did try to make conversation when they moved in but the wife doesnt speak English and the husband made no effort to acknowledge anyone in our road even though numerous people have said hello. They told me that he is a consultant at a hospital and couldnt beleive the state of the house which he has been living in.

The house is a lovely 4-bed detached and was rented to them in an immaculate state. Obviously the owners have retained the bond to pay for the cleaners but it horrifies me that a consultant in a hospital could live in this squalor. The carpets and walls were awful, the bathroom and kitchen looked like theyd never had a clean in all the time they were there.

I can't imagine being so dull i'd give much of a shit what my neighbours, who i'd never bothered speaking to, got up to in their own home.

Morningtown, it was the kitchen and bathroom that concerns me. The stains on the carpets and walls are one thing, but to use a dirty bathroom and kitchen, whats the excuse?

Did I see that English was not their first language? I wonder if the wife felt very isolated and was actually depressed? It must be difficult to get help with that if you don't see your husband much as he's working long hours and sleeping over at the hospital many nights- not to mention the social stigma. People who keep their houses so badly often have mental health issues.

So you are being rather nosey and judgemental without having a clear idea of the full picture really. It probably wouldn't affect the man's job or patient safety, but the judgeyness towards his family because of his job/non-Britishness probably made things much worse for the whole family. YABU.

Amen Arseholio

Arse, it isnt that I care about what my neighbours get up to. But, I do care that a consultant at my local hospital is happy to live in these filthy conditions. You are missing the point.

Don't know why "in his experience" got struck out in my first post, was going for bold!

So you think that he was compromising patient safety?

Sorry mumsnetters, gona sign off now, my boring life takes me elsewhere.

Have a lovely day continuing to pick at AIBU posts. mwah xx

BoF - agree with your every word.

Plus, consultants are arseholes. Who would want to be married to one of those arrogant toads? He probably thought he should come home to his slippers warmed. Perhaps the messy house was his wife's two-fingered gesture to him.

Oh good grief. You're right. He probably wipes his hands all over the toilet, picks up a shirt from a pile of dirty laundry and gives it a sniff before picking his nose and wiping on the curtains while his wife and children roll around in dog crap in the bath.

Yes, those dirty, filthy immigrants coming over and taking all our jobs as hospital consultants

Yes, well done for signing off - glad you finally realised what an idiot you are.

Well I would have been right with you to have a nosey

Can't stand neighbours who don't bother speaking to you and "keep themselves to themselves"

And yes, would have had my large judging pants on. Not because he is a doctor, but because they were rubbish neighbours.

Your the idiot violethill, always sniping at people on here. Boring boring.

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don't you just love AIBU?!

Oh thought you were signing off? Can't even manage that eh?

Evidently a messy house means a messy, unhygienic person.

He probably blows his nose into his hand mid operation and wipes it on the unconscious patient.

My parents let their house out to a consultant and his wife, they treated the house like shit, let their dog (that they had claimed they didn't have) chew skirting boards, fowl all over the garden. He was English and his wife from HK....I think they were used to staff.

That did cross my mind too BOF.

what kind of fowl - chickens just running wild or what?

You can see why the neighbours kept themselves to themselves can't you?

I do so love the assumption that people who rent always live like in an episode of the Young Ones.

I rent - the house may need a dust at the moment and there's a big cleanup scheduled for next weekend - but I'm incredibly houseproud (as much as a cat whose hobbies are sleeping, eating and shedding fur and a husband who can make a room look untidy just by being in it allow). The floor may look a bit hodgepodge - but he put the cheapest of the cheap cream carpets down when he was trying to have a House Doctor moment and sell it before he realized he couldn't in the state it was in and had to rent it - so I've got rugs everywhere I can get them to protect the carpet and my sanity.

Are you sure his wife isn't depressed and feeling unable to DEAL with the housework? It's one of the things that goes by the by when I get relapses into depression - I just switch into survival bare essentials mode till it passes - go out to work, come home, sleep - my brain can't focus on anything extra to that.

Really nasty and judgemental on lots of levels - there's a nice racist undertone running through it as well (lots of comments about how the wife can't speak English - must be very very isolating for her).