I have just been to visit pil for the weekend with dc. they have not seen dc since wed went to see them at easter, they last came to visit us in dec 08, they have just moved house to a beautiful hous3e in herefordshire with a humongous garden, I didn't let dc take any ds's as I thought it is 2 days with grandparents they should just enjoy their company.
so basic run down of the weekend, arriev at 12.50, mil says we weren't expecting you yet (told them I would aim for 1) I haven't been to the shops yet, proceeds to go to the shops and returns at 5pm.
FIL is reading his paper for most of this time.
Friday night dc were a real problem to get to bed, I eventually got them settled at 10pm, fil then turns some music on really lopud on surround sound, I say that might wake up dc, he says hard luck this is our time.
sat dc get up at 6.15, pil get up at about 9am, dc want t9o play in garden, fine, fil shows them where there is a hole in fence to be careful of, then goes out to mow the lawn and tells the dc they can't play on grass, dc just wanted to explore and kept getting shouted at by fil, came in a bit sad.
mil is going to shop so dc decide they would like to go as well, sat waiting for an hour, bored stiff all the time mil saying I am ready we are going now, don't get that out we are going now.
we ngo to shop and then pick your own, was lovely, get back and dc are just told not to do any game they come up with, including hide and seek, apparently the will destroy pil new house if we allow them to play hide and seek (that destructive old game).
every game they find fil shouts at them to stop and to be quiet. I am exhausted from trying to keep them quiet all weekend.
so deciding what time to leave on sunday, I say we can stay for lunch if you had planned that, answer oh we usually have our dinner later on. so decide to leave at ab out 12.30, 10.30 mil is packing up all the stuff she wants to gice us and tidying up around ended up leaving at 11.20 as dd1 bored and not alloweed to get anything out as we are leaving soon.
they will not come to visit us and will not stay in our house (our house is not gross or anything). they visit sil every month or so, we had to spend most of the weekend talking about sil's wedding and fil kept reminding me that he had given us a large sum of monry to help us buy our house (which I am eternally grateful for, my parents gave us the same and have never mentioned it again).
MIL is trying to de clutter so I suggest that she may want to throw away a couple of baby things as dc no longer interested, she says will keep as you never know. I know if sil has children they will be doted on. there are pics of sil, sil df, and sil's fiance parents all over the house (they are posh and rich we are far from it).
I feel like we are nothing but an inconvinience to them and having spent 7 years making sure they have a relationship with dd's even though they put nop effort in WIBU to not bother anymore?