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To think that this particular friend is annoying in the nicest possible way!

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ladylobster · 08/08/2010 13:14

OK, so basically this lady has been my friend for a long time, we have been through our "formative" periods together, holidays, flat shared, she was even my bridesmaid...

Since pregnancy I have seen hide nor hair of her, well i can count on one hand the times we have met up, 3 times, twice for dinner, once for a picnic with other friends. We used to see each other probably at least once a fortnight, Now i really do understand that i am not a very interesting prospect whilst pregnant, she is single, im not, she drinks alot, i dont drink at all, and all the other obvious differences of pregnancy and singledom, so as we have drifted apart so to speak, as wopuld be expected, understandable on both sides...

I have surrounded myself with people like minded as I guess she has too - which is fine by me, what i am hating now is she is back on the scene, i am tired (due in a week) and really dont have the resources in myself to deal with her hyperactivity about my baby!! (as nice as that is :o)

This is where i should add that she absolutely loves babies to the point of it being an obsession, now im going to be a mummy, and i will love my baby more than life itself, but im not a babyaholic

She keeps pestering over meeting up, now and after the birth, trips to Paris with the girls, no mention of the baby?! How she cant wait to meet the baby, babysit it etc etc, lovely, but totally unrealistic stuff and annoying in the sense that i seem to have been abandoned for 9 months as i wasnt deemed exciting enough, but now im ready to hatch im a prospect for the diary again - grrrrrrrrrr!!

I dont want to go to Paris with the girls to get hammered, to be honest im looking forward to being a mum and seeing family etc, doing different things that being a mum brings

Anyway rant over, i am sure im not the only one to have found friends to be like this whilst pregnant, i think i just realised today after a zillion texts from her that its very annoying!!!

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Bousy · 08/08/2010 13:21

Sounds like she can't win, you don't like it when she doesn't contact you, you don't like it when she does. Maybe she realises she's neglected you a bit, and now she's trying to make up for it? She's obviously trying really hard to make you feel involved now. Unless you want to cut off all contact with her, I'd stay in touch - those offers of babysitting may come in handy! - and you have a great excuse for anything you don't want to do Grin

ladylobster · 08/08/2010 13:26

I was thinking that actually Bousy!!

A baby is a great get out clause for any activity if necessary :o)

She doesnt have kids and would probably love one if she had the right person to have one with, i do feel for her, but it is exhausting with people who have no idea what kids entail

Just ranting, she will always be my friend, one of those who no matter how little you see them, you always pick up in the same place

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