or are most men like this?

[luciemule]

My sister had a baby yesterday and her dh had posted some cute pics on a social network website.

Last night, dh was reading his book and when I said "come and look at the pictures", he replied "it's just a baby....I'm readin my book".

I went a bit loopy (hence he slept on the sofa!) saying how could be so cold and heartless. Then I asked him how would he feel if I said that later on in the year when his sister has her second baby? He didn't reply.

AIBU or do you reckon most men would be like this? He could have simply got up, walked over to the laptop, made some "ah he's lovely" type comments and then gone back to his book.

The conversation at home would have been the same except I would just have said something along the lines of 'oh just come over and pretend to be interested'. Which he would probably have done while making it very clear he wasn't.

Tbh I would be reasonably uninterested if one of his siblings had a baby, so I can't imagine going 'loopy' over it.

yabu. And it's not 'most me' it's 'most people' imo, including me.

This does not make him cold and heartless, it makes you a bit overdramatic.

When DH shows me yet another picture of a motorbike I just say 'oh yes, a bike, but I couldn not be less interested' Doesn't make me mean or curel, just means we have different interests.

yabu, real overreaction to make him sleep on the sofa
my dh is like that too although if it was my sis baby probably would have had a quick look but not too interested in other peoples babies - whereas i would look at anyone's baby quite happily even if i hardly know them. but is not a big deal

"I think people are being a bit harsh - I don't imagine the OP said "look at this picture now or you are sleeping on the sofa!", presumably it started an argument that left them both too pissed off to sleep together. (Correct me if i'm wrong OP)"

elephant that's exactly what happened.
He has never slept on the sofa before, other than two nights ago when he was coughing a lot and said he would go down as it was cooler and he wouldn't cough as much so once fully embroiled in said arguement last night, I said "oh why don't you just sleep on the sofa again" and he said "fine, I will".

It's not because I'm a doula/bf supporter etc that made me go all cooey - my sister had literally had the baby a few hours before, I had just visited the hospital to see them and we all live about 1/2 mile apart in the same town so we're close. It's not as if we live hundreds of miles apart and rarely speak.
I just thought that my dh should/would be interested enough to at least look at the picture. He wasn't interupting a film so could have peeked over sofa and said "yeah cute".
Unlike lots of people, I always think all babies are really cute and not just because I'm a doula.