To think that not going out every Friday and Saturday doesn't make you a loser?

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I'm 24 years old and I tend to go out every couple of weeks or so on a Friday or Saturday. I enjoy going out but I'm also happy to stay in with DP and have a pizza and watch a film and cuddle on the sofa.

There seems to be an attitude amongst a lot of people my age that you're a loser if you don't go out and spend £50 on alcohol every Friday and Saturday night.

My lodger just brought a friend round for pre-going out drinks and she said 'oh are you not going out tonight?' And gave me a pitying look. Grrrrr. So please reassure me that I'm not boring and prematurely middle aged for not going out every single week.

Most people's reasons for going out is to find a partner (whether they admit it or not!)

So, why do you need to go out?

Loser

I never went out at all as a teenager or in my 20s, and have continued the habit into my 30s. I have never had any interest in "socialising" with drunk people in pubs and clubs. In fact, I think the whole 'going out at weekends' thing is unspeakably shallow and boring. So there.

OP, do you have children? This will obviously help me decide whether or not you lose

I am 22 and havent gone out on a weekend for a few years...since having my ds we have better things to spend money on than beer etc
But people we know who go out at weekend and have kids dont have nice things in there houses live in horrible areas and never buy there kids anything
Like people said most people go out to find a partner. I found my perfect partner and love my life so dont feel the need to go out and get drunk, dont mind going cinemas or for a meal though. But would much rather spend the money on fun days out for us.
Its a personal choice but no i dont think your sad.

I'm 20+4 weeks pg and generally don't feel like going out so DH and I stay in. But of course, we never did go out much before the pregnancy and still our ideal evening weekend is pretty much like yours. We have a nice meal and conversation where we can hear each other and then I do needlepoint while DH fiddles about with his electronics or works out what DIY to do next. I like the peacefulness of it.

So, no, you're not boring at all. You sound lovely.

Another one here who hates pubs and clubs and always have (I'm 35 now) have always much prefered going out for a meal/chat with friends or to the pictures. That said a lot of my friends still do the pub/club thing and occasionally I get forced asked to go which I make excuses, however if it's a birthday celebration I feel obliged to go, so I stand there amongst the 20 somethings and more often than not 30 somethings and watch them getting more and more pissed, thinking they can dance and copping off with random strangers, falling over and stuffing their faces with kebabs that they wouldn't dream of eating if they were sober, and we are meant to be the losers?!

Me and DH make a point of only go out on Sun, Mon, Tues and Wed nights unless it's absolutely necessary (e.g. friend's birthday party on a Saturday night).

I hate the whole 'living for the weekend' thing and the fact that everywhere is so busy on Fri and Sat nights.