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to be upset that he lied to me about the business

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whoneedssleepanyway · 07/08/2010 19:03

My DH has his own business which operated from 2 locaions, 1 he owned the property and 1 he rented from the council. Anyway things have been up and down a bit over the last year or so and he has talked about closing the one at the rented premises. When I asked him about this the other day he said, he said he had closed it down a few weeks back, was a bit Confused that he hadn't told me.

Anyway was at in laws today and was using their computer and moved some paperwork and it was a letter from DH's company (he often works at in-laws), didn't want to read it but literally some words were jumping of the page along the lines of landlord taking back property and talking about forfeiture of lease....I didn't read the entire letter as felt bad and put it down and out of the way with all the other papers it was with. I am feeling really upset that clearly this was not DH's decision to close the business and he has lied about it and felt he couldn't talk to me about this. I know I do have a tendancy to worry incessantly about things and he no doubt didn't want to cause me stress but this is serious and I really feel he should have told me about this.

Don't know what to do now, want to ask him about this but don't want him to think I have been prying and meddling. Am feeling really upset that he has been keeping this all to himself too and no doubt been worrying about it on his own and I am worrying about our finances too now.

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BeenBeta · 07/08/2010 19:13

People who run their own businesses often become so close to them they cannot make rational decisions when things start to go badly. It involves personal pride and fear of what else they would do to earn a living, a sense of mourning for loss and a desire to protect family from the consequences.

You are right to be concerned and talking this out of DH is not going to be easy for all the above reasons. Try to be supportive and say you are worried for him and that you know none of it his fault but that you need to know everything so you can help him.

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