To think that if Dh gave Ds just a little bit of attention he wouldn't find Ds half as annoying?

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and realise that all Ds wants is to play for five minutes with his Daddy as they haven't seen each other for two days (due to daddy working and ds and dd going over to their Nana's house whilst I worked last night) I know Dh works hard and works a lot and likes to have time to himself sometimes and I dont mind him playing on the Xbox at all, but ds couldn't get his attention at all this morning (and neither could I on his behalf tbh. Apart from Dh telling him off for making a mess) They dont have much time together and it would have been nice for Dh to turn off the xbox for five minutes and join ds to play on the floor with him once in a while.

Dh gets stressed over such little stuff, I wish he would remember that he is only four and that he is still a baby. He has gone off to work in a huff as I told him he didn't need to raise his voice to Ds, he was doing as he had been told and tidying up. (Even if he did knock Daddy's expensive speaker over, which are in the way and are very big so hard to not catch them occasionally) I got told that I was having a go at him as I thought he was doing the wrong thing and that if I thought he was doing it wrong I should have disciplined him instead. sigh.

YANBU
he sounds a bit shit as a dad tbh.

Maybe you need to try bringing them together a bit with some structured time together? Sometimes people are so much bad, but thoughtless. IS there anywhere he could take him? Start teaching him to ride a bike etc? Would your dh be up for it? Or to create 'daddy time' at a certain time for your ds to look forward to?

Trying to take a positive slant on things!

not so much bad

Your dh was behaving like a selfish git. Presumably he isn't like this all the time, but he was very much in the wrong this morning. Poor ds.

Thanks for the replies. Edam No he's not like this all the time. He's great with the baby but sometimes I think he forgets how little ds is still. strawberrycake yes, thoughtless rather than bad. He's fine when we're out and about and will play then but as he is off one day a week that's not very often. I just think he should have used his time with ds instead of playing his game. I think that its natural we all like free time to ourselves some times but the kids have to get a look in too if that makes sense. it just annoys me as I love playing with the kids and I dont want them to grow up thinking that daddy doesn't like it when they are around.

Very good point, there, juicy. Reminded me of being a child and hating the way my father hid behind his newspaper rather than playing with us.

He sounds a bit like a kid himself tbh. Probably, as strawberryckecake says just a bit thoughtless, but needs to be picked up on in a calm way, all the same.