To be fed up with DF

[pontypandy]

Hiya just come home from spending some time with DS'S GP'S (My DM & DF) and had to leave earlier than usual cause i felt like i was going to explode at DF but didn't want to.

I took a activity book that DS 4.11 had done to show them his work (which I am very proud of)
DM looked at it and was very pleased and shocked at how well DS is doing, gave it to DF and he was just picking at it saying the "handwriting wasn't very neat and that some of the letters didn't look right" !!! now he's 4.11 hasn't even started school yet (starting reception in sept) and he's complaining about handwriting saying it could be neater, my DM commented that i couldn't even write at DS's age !!!.

Also while DS was playing he was getting a bit noisy and I could see DF was getting a bit annoyed with this so I asked him to quiet down a bit, he ignored me and started misbehaving a bit (nothing drastic,typical 4.11 boy stuff) so I raised my voice and then DF said OI no need for that!!!

I mean he was complaining that DS was misbehaving, but then he complained that I told him off to get him to stop!!!!! But if I don't shout then im not looking after my son!!!

Anyway I asked him to play quietly other wise we will be going home, but then DF said I was being mean for not letting him speak !!!

I had to leave after that, made some excuses that me and DS had some-things to do at home.

What do you reckon AIBU to be a bit annoyed at DF right now??

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YANBU to be annoyed, but there's always two sides to every story. Is he always like this or was this the exception? My DF doesn't know what to do with my kids (3 and 1)- not everyone is a natural with pre-schoolers. He adores them but really struggles having them round. Is there something else going on in his life that's worrying him? Not that that's an excuse for being grumpy, but could be a reason why he had a short fuse.
Could you talk to your DM about how you feel and see if she can shed any light on the situation?
Well done to your DS for his activity book though :)

YANBU You would think your DF had better things to do than nitpick.

Parents! They don't half do your head in sometimes, don't they?

Your DF, like mine would have come from different times. When they were learning to write, children were expected to be perfect from the very beginning and it was beaten into them. So they don't tend to praise good efforts because that was not acceptable in their day.

It's like that thread about poster's MIL refusing to move things out of the way when her toddler grandson visits, because they come from times when a toddler was given a slap for touching anything rather than taking it away!

Thank goodness we live in better times.

yes very true lady my dad is 74 so comes from a very diffrent time, also he was brought up in a childrens home.