to be pissed of for my mother not saying happy birthday?

[maighdlin]

my mum is head over heels with DD she is her first grandchild and cooks us dinner in return for being allowed to babysit. jammy i know but she kidnapped her on monday night and decided to keep her last night as well, without telling me but i digress.

she phoned me this morning and asked if could come pick her up. we're all meeting at my sisters tonight for my birthday bucket of chicken () and i said would it not be easier for her to just bring the baby with her to my sisters to save me the 30 mile round trip to head where she was going anyway. she went off on one as my mum often does about how tired she was and how much she has to do and wanted me to come down to her to get her cigarettes. anyway we were on the phone for about 20 mins this morning and after i hung up i realised she did not acknowledge it was my birthday today and its being annoying me since.

AIBU to get annoyed about it. already being a bit of a child because for the past two weeks everyone has been talking about DD's 1st bday on friday no mention of mine. but is a happy birthday to much to ask from my mum?

no YANBU she is your mum and should have said happy birthday to you.."HAPPY BIRTHDAY"

Sometimes when we have children you cant help but get a little bit jealous when they get all the attention and we get none..we are human after all.

When dd was born I warned DH that he was to say hello to me first when he walked into the house just to make sure I kept my place..childish i know but we are important too.

Not unreasonable. If it was anyone else I'd say it was no issue, but your own mother?? You'd think it would be memorable for her too!

Happy Birthday!!!!!!!

I can't believe she a) kept your daughter on your birthday (without asking) and b) didn't say Happy Birthday?!

Maybe she's 'saving ' it for later when you see her

John Gray - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, says the man should always greet the wife before the children and the children before the dog, for harmony in the home That and men being like rubber bands are the only two things I remeber from the book!

My in-laws forgot DH's birthday this year. He claimed he was not bothered that they didn't ring but I was livid. Although I actually think it is worse to talk to someone on their birthday and not wish them happy birthday than not to call at all.

My MIL has forgotten my DH's birthday once. He rang her in the end to ask her what day it was. Her (genuine) answer was "Tuesday". Then asked her the date which got the same response followed by a prolonged silence, broken by a shriek of mortified realisation.

I know it doesn't help you but these things do happen.

Maybe she'd had a bit of a night of it with the baby.
Is 15 miles really so far to go and pick up your baby in the morning?