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AIBU to want my Mum to spend more time with me?

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Yorkie1 · 04/08/2010 12:16

I've always had an ok relationship with my mum, sometimes a bit strained, as my dad died when i was 11,mum got remarried a year or so after. Then I had to move house&schools to live with stepdad, a bit awkward as we didn't get on in early years. I lived away from my home town (where mum&stepdad have always lived) for about 10yrs due to uni, work, relationships etc but moved back last year as we were looking to start a family(DH is from same town). All ok at first, saw mum quite regularly, out & popped round to theirs/she came to ours. In last 8months or so its changed. When she pops in, it's for an hour max, sometimes meet her out or go to theirs but it's never for long as she always seems to have something else to do. She's retired and does have to help stepdad by taking him to various health related appts, not every day though. She does her own thing regularly on a weekend leaving him at home. I'm 30wks pg and hoped we could spend more time together before baby is born but it's not looking likely. I understand she's got her own life and don't begrudge her that but I'm an only child and thought she would like to have me living closer, she always hinted she would when I lived away.
AIBU to expect to see her more often/for longer or should I just accept it's not going to happen until GC comes along and then it will be him she wants to see and not me!?

OP posts:
pjmama · 04/08/2010 13:04

As regards your last comment, that will happen anyway regardless of how much you see each other now!

Have you told her how you feel? She might think that she's giving you space and not realise you'd like to see her more?

scottishmummy · 04/08/2010 13:18

congratulations on pg.your mum has a lot on her plate too such as help her dh, and sounds as if shes a busy lady.the trick is negotiation and compromise,to suit you both

pragmatically her commitments wont disappear overnight and she will still fit you in around them.doesn't mean she doesn't care just means she has stuff to do too

and in 10yrs you have been away she has been doing her thing too, and has her own routine built up.she cannot necessarily change stuff

be happy you have good relationship, have her involved with new baby

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