To expect some time out myself?

[TootyFlutey]

I'm sure this is an age-old moan but here i go anyway - i feel the need to vent!

As the mother of a rather busy 4year old who is 15 weeks pregnant, owner of a 16week old puppy (who at least is house trained!, holding down a 4 evenings a week job, a voluntary one night a week job, studying for a degree, and living in an almost finished house (fixer-upper project!) is it wrong to want to be able to have one night off OUTSIDE THE HOUSE AWAY FROM ALL OF THOSE THINGS every so often!

My DP makes sure he gets at least 2 nights out a month, however as he works 6 days a week (odd shifts), do the sums and you'll get around 4 nights a month.

Days off when they happen are spent as a family and don't get me wrong we are happy.

I'm struggling to see a gap and once baby no.2 arrives surely it's only going to get busier?!

No, you're not BU, but from whom do you need permission?

Your fairy godmother isn't going to appear and bestow a night off on you while all around beam benevolently.

If you want a night off, arrange one. Make a date with friends and let your DH know that you'll be out that evening. Then go out.

You'll be waiting a long time before someone else presents you with some gift wrapped time off. You're a grown adult and you're not in prison, you can have some time off if you want it, you just need to make it so yourself - that's what your DH does (unless you're actually forcing him out to the pub while you nail yourself to a cross, in which case, YABU).

You're right i know it.