/silly to not want too many second hand things?

[NoTeaForMe]

We have been given a Moses basket and swinging crib from a friend and are very grateful and a few white sleepsuits, again very happy and grateful. However, she has now given us some bedding, weaning spoons, teething toys etc.
Am I being silly to not want these things or in fact any more second hand things in general?

we borrowed a moses basket from a friend whose baby is only a few months older than ours and tbh DC2 has nearly outgrown it already and he's not even 2 weeks old. He's a big boy! We need to get the cot out the loft this week and will be handing back the moses basket to our friend. Just an example as to why getting 2nd hand is a brill idea esp with these types of baby stuff. Yes we can afford to buy everything brand new - but honestly what is the point??? Babies outgrow everything so fast it just doesn't seem logical to splurge on stuff that isn't going to be used for very long. Clothing is another one that you should consider taking 2nd hand because they grow so quickly. DC2 only got one week's wear out of DC1's newborn babygrows sadly. He just doesn't fit them anymore.

YABU - just be grateful you know people who want to offer you stuff.

I can understand wanting to get new weaning spoons. And probably teething rings. Sheets are fine to get from someone else though.

Maybe I am just jealous that we had children before everyone else we know and so never got any second hand things

NTFM - you have already taken a lot of things Lucky you!!

With the sheets, honestly, it's a baby sleeping in them, not 2 fat, hairy bikers they are barely used in a moses basket/crib etc even in a cot - it's just not the same as adult sheets. However, if you don't want to use them just put them in the linen cupboard and buy some new ones!

Spoons etc - just say thanks, stick them in the back of the wardrobe with your friends name on them and don't worry about it!!

Lifeas3+1 - people like the woman on the forum are nuts - ignore, ignore, ignore... what you buy your baby has nothing to do with how much you love your baby and anyone that thinks that is too barking to bother with tbh..... also leaving the baby on the bus isn't an indicator of how much you love them - just how many brain cells you have

I burst into tears at the weekend because my MIL had bought my PFB two (new) toys. I sobbed to my other half that I wanted to buy her stuff.
I knew I was being ridiculous!!!
We've been given so many clothes that I haven't had to buy her any (and probably won't have to for about a year!) and I kinda feel like I'm missing out on the fun bits of having a newborn. All I get to buy her is nappies and formula.
(Incidently, if you're lucky enough for anyone to ask what you'd like as presents, I'd recommend pratical stuff like baby wipes, nappies etc. you'll save a fortune!)

Maybe its not so much that the things aren't new, more that you haven't been able to choose them?

Maybe buying second hand stuff from NCT sales and EBay will satisfy a need to choose things without breaking the bank.

YAB a bit U.

I can understand you wanting new if it's your first, i know i did - but believe me, but the time you get to yur third you'll be raiding the NCT sales with the best of them!!!

Lifeas3plus1 what kind of horrible nasty cow misguided person would say that to a new mum? So poor people should just fuck off and stop breeding I guess?

I am in two minds about this kind of thing. I am due to have a baby in Dec and am grateful for the things I have been offered (cot, breast pump, bouncy chair thing) but when people start loading you up with all sorts of shit I think you have to start saying no. It's like moving house, pregnancy seems to make people think it's a perfect opportunity to get rid of all the stuff that is cluttering up their house. Someone offered me a carseat which a friend had 'left in their car' which I turned down for safety reasons.

Also in my case we probaly could buy alot of things new if we bought not very nice quality.. Would much rather raid NCT and ebay like funkycherry said and get nicer quality items for about the same price.

I understand all the practicalities I promise I do and please see in my last post that I have taken quite a few things.

Yes it's my first baby, and I'm sure you're right it will all change with my second etc!!!

Just to prove I'm not crazy though......my baby is due in October and for christmas she will be getting a helium balloon in a big box from us. I'm not into spending lots of unnecessary money on things, but on the other hand want to buy some things new for my baby and that's what I was checking!

notea - is this your first?

I really wanted new but lots of things "forced" on me by family and friends! Moses basket AND Cot, we bought new mattresses for both and were able to spend far more on them than we would have originally. I bought some new sheets and used the some second hand as I knew the baby (key difference I think)as they get through so many!!!!!!!!

As time has gone by we have been rather thankful not to have bought these things and have lent other things that we have bought to friends and vice versa.

With DC 2 imminent we are now in a situation where we have to buy a cot as we sadly broke the last one and DH and I are fuming with ourselves and keep asking friends if they have one we can borrow..............

Also have "borrowed" a friends P +T that was sitting in her garage, I was a bit precious about it as it was covered in mildew but after a weekend of having cleaned it up a bit we have bought on ebay a cocoon (won't be used for long I expect) and a new doubles kit fabric that couldn't be rescued - costing us £60 instead of buying it brand new for £500. Am most pleased with myself . We could afford these things if we wanted to but we know they will be outgrown by one or the other pretty quickly so.......

Plastic toys 2nd hand fine (bought lots of things on ebay that could be milton sterilized/wiped) but I think spoons etc and teething toys unless unused I would be reluctant to take on second hand.

You'll be getting a 2 month baby a balloon in a box? Sounds odd to me but each to their own.

I'd happily have second hand things if offered, other than car seat, as DF said about the safety issue.

lifeas3plus1

All my ds1 things went to a friend for her son and now they have been passed back for my new baby so they are actually 3rd hand!

Can beat you on that one lol.

DS1 had all brand new being the first child, grandchild, nephew, gt grandchild, gt nephew....
DNephew1 - 2yrs younger- had 95% of what DS1 had outgrown
DN2 had all of what DN1 had out grown which was what DS1 had outgrown
DS2 - 9 yrs younger than DS1 still has some of the same clothes which have been passed through 6 other children.
They still look as smart and clean and wash just as well.

He has had 23 buggies though lmao

Lifeas3+1 - I nearly added 'Leaving your baby on the bus while off your face' - I left mine at a friend's house and set off to walk home but thankfully it was tiredness and not crack that made me do it

As for that stupid, stupid person spending so much cash on their 8-month-old - what an utter TWAT she sounds.

Anyway, back to the thread - there's nothing wrong with buying nice special things for your baby, but it's the dull, boring stuff that I can't really imagine being bothered about having new.

I bought stuff second hand then sold it on so baby equipment cost me nothing at all. The quality of the second hand stuff was better than I could have afforded new.

With the money I saved I was able to stay on mat leave for a bit longer.

Even if you have the money, and you can easily spend over £1,000 on new baby stuff, I would sooner open a bank account with £1,000 in it for the baby myself.

Whatever you decide to do though, enjoy it!

yabu - there is so much baby tat in circulation it is quite stupid to buy new things. save your money for the more exiciting things in life. (alternatively read the article I just did about the 40,000 children expected to die in Niger this summer and donate to them instead of wasting cash on smething you will use for a few weeks)

Also bear in mind that even if you are buying new because it's exciting/first baby etc, if you buy Baby Dior, people will judge you