I don't know who's BU here. I thought I'd done pretty well at solving problems, but my aunt seems to think that she's made loads of compromises and has been put out. I'm just going to get it off my chest if that's ok.
My aunt has apparently found planning to attend my wedding 'very stressful'. When we were picking the date, we went with the weekend when she'd just got back from holiday (as opposed to during her holiday). She doesn't like driving at night (there are trains between my place and London until very late, and also buses through the night, but she doesn't fancy either, no idea why). So dad booked her into a hotel.
Our original church canceled on us, and the new one is about five minutes' walk from her hotel - pure coincidence, but convenient, I'd think. Apparently she was still annoyed at the change of plan because she'd already looked at a map.
She sent me her dietary preferences (as opposed to requirements), but that's fine. Now, her daughter is 16, and I was going to put her to sit with my younger brother and his girlfriend, and some nice friends of mine who will chat to her. She'll be the youngest person there by a few years. Apparently, when my aunt and uncle go on family holidays, they always bring a friend as company for my cousin, who's an only child. Early on in the planning, I vaguely suggested my cousin might want to bring a date (no idea about teenage dating but it seemed polite). Cousin said she wouldn't. My mum now says that my aunt is planning to bring a friend of my cousin's, and will be put out if she can't be there.
I admit, I would have no problem with this if it were anyone else, and I'm sure the restaurant could cope with someone else. I just feel she's being pushy and there's no need - and I suspect she is doing partly just to show she's been put out. And ffs, does a 16 year old really need 'company' to cope with a meal out?