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to not expect DS to be intimidated?

54 replies

MrsVictorUbogu · 02/08/2010 23:32

He was walking three doors up to play with his friend, when four teenagers came walking the other way. They deliberately spread out, forcing him right onto the edge of the kerb. And then were swearing and generally taking the piss out of him. He is six. He said nothing, did nothing to provoke them.

I was watching him walk up, from our door step, so I told them to lay off him.....FFS, they must have been 17/18, surely they have better things to do than intimidate a six year old?

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JackJacksmummy · 02/08/2010 23:33

poor little man

AhickeyfromKenickie · 02/08/2010 23:36

Pricks! Of course they don't have anything better to do, anything else would require brain cells.
Hope your DS is okay.

IMoveTheStars · 02/08/2010 23:39

What did you say to them? Fucking pricks.

for your DS, thank god you were watching!!

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MrsVictorUbogu · 02/08/2010 23:45

Thanks both, he was quite upset by it. He hadn't realised I was watching and told me 'the older boys were being mean'. And he wouldn't come back home unless his big sister cam with him too, because they were hanging about at the bottom of the street.

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Tiredmumno1 · 02/08/2010 23:49

Maybe you should report the incident to the local police, just so they are aware and can keep there eye out.

hope your ds is ok now.

for you

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MrsVictorUbogu · 02/08/2010 23:51

Jareth I asked them if picking on a six year old made them feel like big men!! I told them to leave him alone in future and they tried to make out they had said they liked his hairstyle....I heard every word, and none of it was nice.

I always watch him go up because he has balance/mobility problems, not noticeable really, but he falls over easily, so he knows never to walk on the edge of the kerb incase he falls into the road.....so he was upset that they had forced him over to the side.

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MrsVictorUbogu · 02/08/2010 23:53

Tired Mum, I was tempted to report it, but am not sure where they live/who they are...our house is right by a cut-through to the main road.

DS is fine now, but I am still angry!

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booyhoo · 02/08/2010 23:53

i second reporting it so the police know they have been about if there happen to be anymore incidents.

that is awful. who raises these teenagers to think that intimidating a 6 year old is a valid form of entertainment? i really do wonder what sort of reality they live in where that is ok.

Tiredmumno1 · 02/08/2010 23:58

i hate our country at the moment, it always seems like stuff like this happens quite alot.

they were probably bored and think that its ok to behave like that.

i just dont know what this place is coming to.

makes me want to get my kids as far away as possible.

its so that we have to live with this sort of abuse and intimidation

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MrsVictorUbogu · 03/08/2010 00:02

The area we live in used to be really nice but has gone rapidly downhill in the last few years.

A 13 girl who lives up round the corner is always shouting and swearing at all the younger kids, the boys opposite are always smashing things up in the road, or throwing things at eveyone's windows, and we had two bikes stolen from the back garden on two seperate occasions, next door had their little wendy house stolen I have phoned the police loads of times in the past, but have given up now as they are not really that bothered.

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booyhoo · 03/08/2010 00:08

it is awful isn't it?

i was brought up in the countryside and was always jealous of my school friends who lived in towns or even villages with next door neighbours and someone to play with but now that i am raising my boys in a town i wish we coudl afford to move a bit out of it because sometimes even i am intimidated when we are walking up home from school and tehre are lots of teens about shouting and carrying on.

Heracles · 03/08/2010 00:15

Bleh, people aren't magically nicer near grass; there are just fewer of them.

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MrsVictorUbogu · 03/08/2010 00:16

I grew up in the country too, and loved it. We are on the edge of town, my friend lives right in town and has far less problems than we do . I really HATE it here and wish we could move....away from all the hassle!

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MrsVictorUbogu · 03/08/2010 00:16

Heracles - fewer of them would suit me nicely

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booyhoo · 03/08/2010 00:17

yes that's what i mean heracles. at least we knew that we could play in our own garden without mum having to check it for broken bottles or we could sleep at night without hearing people shouting drunken abuse at each other outside our house.

sephrenia · 03/08/2010 00:19

It's like that in my area and has been for a while. The only reason that the police are taking any notice now, is because the local thugs decided to try and set a local primary school pupil on fire.

I really am beginning to hate this area.

sephrenia · 03/08/2010 00:20

Sorry,

I forgot to add that I'm glad your DS is okay MrsVictor.

Heracles · 03/08/2010 00:21

Fewer isn't necessarily better. There are huge advantages to living in the city (I've done both and work in both) in many ways, just as there are to living in the country.

People are generally fantastic, I find, so there being fewer of them around isn't something I'd think of as being a plus.

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MrsVictorUbogu · 03/08/2010 00:22

Seraphina it is so depressing, and no-one seems to care.

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Heracles · 03/08/2010 00:28

It was a sad incident, but don't blow it up into some kind of metaphor for "Broken Britain". It was some lads being twats; are you telling me twattery ceases when you live within the smell of cowshit? Ain't true, I'm afraid.

booyhoo · 03/08/2010 00:34

no-one said it ceases, there are just fewer twats. i have done both aswell and i prefer the country.

Tiredmumno1 · 03/08/2010 00:38

I say bring the army back here to patrol our streets.

i bet there would be less trouble then as the police dont seem to use much power to stop this happening

Heracles · 03/08/2010 00:41

Bring back? Was there a time they patrolled our streets then? Sure worked a treat in Norhern ireland.

Sheesh...

@boo: fairy nuff. I couldn't stand it, personally, but I do like working in the countryside.

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MrsVictorUbogu · 03/08/2010 00:42

So, Heracles, would you like your child to be treated in the same way?
Why the hell should I or my DS have to put up with him being intimidated by 'lads being twats'?
Why is it okay that they were being twats?
Obviously there are twats everywhere, just that in the countryside you come across them less often I suppose.
Anyway, I should be able to live anywhere I choose, and let my son knock for his friend without this kind of thing happening. What annoys me is that the 'lads being twats' think it is okay to behave that way to a much younger child. If he had of fallen into the road I doubt they would have helped him up.

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Heracles · 03/08/2010 00:46

Whoah! In a completely surprising move, a poster chooses to be insulted!

Please refer me to the parts where I said you "should have to put up with him being intimidated", then to the bit where I said it was "okay that they were being twats".

Go on, show me those bits, then I'll explain.