to be really angry about this...

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My dd has a few friends that she plays with all the time at our house....they have all been friends for the past three years and go to each others houses etc...they were in our house yesterday and we just found out that one of them dared my dd (5) to eat a hamster poo!!! This girl is 10 btw. When my dd said no, the girl said "well im going home unless you do it"...my dd idolises this girl and did it and was nearly sick...only just found all this out and am absolutely enraged....am I overeacting??

Id be FUMING. At 10 years old this is serious bullying. If the other girl was also 4/5 it would be abd enough but that is disgusting at that age.

This girl should know better. You should talk to your daughter about not being a lemming though.

no you're not.

Foureleven is right. It's bullying.

YANBU Hope your DD is feeling ok now

I would phone the 10 year old's parent to tell them. I have a dd aged 6 so not sure if this is unreasonable or not but I'd be fuming too.

Yeah we have told her that she should have said something straight away...the girl came to the door for dd this morning and my partner asked her what she was playing at...she said she knew nothing about it to begin with and then tried to change her story..her mother then came to the door saying she was in tears and that she didnt do it but luckily there were another couple of girls there who have confirmed that she did...worried that none of them said anything about it either though! Its causing ructions between all the parents though!

not good. but what is also not good is thta your dd idolises this girl so much she allowed herself to be persuaded to do something so yuk.

Christ I am not surprised taht you are angry. That is bullying imo.

Oblomov i agree, its really worrying me...we are trying to teach her how to stand up for herself but just dont know what else to say to her...this girl is really popular and has a young brother exactly the same age as dd...that is why she plays with the younger ones sometimes...so the younger ones all look up to her as what she says goes most of the time....never been anything malicious in it before though so dont know what to do...im at work at the mo so I will see the girls mother when I get home...still no apology now she knows that it did happen though which is even more concerning as I thought she was a friend...

the girl is a bully and the mum is probably really embarrassed, that's no reason to not apologise though

How awful.

I hope the mother does apologise.

I would not be happy about it. Just to understand, this is a 5 year old and a 10 year old playing together and they have played together since they were 2 and 7? I think I would be thinking whether it was time for them to stop playing together.

5 years is a really big age gap at their age and I suspect that the older child is going to become increasingly aware of the power that she wields over the younger and act accordingly. I suspect that the friendship does have that much in it for her anymore tbh and she may find the younger child rather annoying now rather than cute.

I agree goosey, there are four 5yo's who all play together on a daily basis, she is big sister to one and so hangs around with them when she has nothing better to do...not many her own age up our way but to date all she has done is mother them, or so I thought! Now I wonder what else has been happening that dd hasnt told us about! Im starting a muay thai class this week to keep fit so I think Il start taking dd to the kids class!