3 years ago, when DD1 was 12, we went to stay with the PILs at their house in France (they live half the year there and half in England). FIL announced that he wanted to show DD1 how to shoot and do some target practice. He told me proudly that he has a really powerful gun that would be illegal in the UK so he keeps it in France.
I hate guns and the accidents that can result from them, and cannot see any point in them. I told FIL clearly and firmly that I didn't want DD1 to have anything to do with guns. My DH said I was being silly and all "health and safety gone mad" and gave permission to FIL, even though I was still firmly saying no.
The next thing I knew they were in the garden shooting - I had no idea in which direction they were firing as they had not told me and DD2 where to avoid, so I did not even dare go out to put an end to it for fear of DD2 following and being shot.
It was not so much the gun (well, it was a bit) as the riding completely roughshod over my views on what should be allowed that I have been unable to completely wipe from my memory and makes me reluctant to go and stay with PILs again, although I do. DH tells me to "get over it" as "it was no big deal", FIL grew up with guns and when he was a boy they would go out shooting at the drop of a hat and modern society has gone mad.
As background, FIL was brought up under the Raj in India.
So AIBU not to quite forgive and forget?