It's my birthday and wedding anniversary today and

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BurningBuntingFlipFlop · 02/08/2010 10:14

I haven't got so much as a card from my dh or the children (3 and 1) I'm so upset. My dh used to be so romantic, when we first got married 4 years ago it was all hearts and flowers and I'm not stupid I know it's bit like that forever but surely I deserve a card. I've had an awful 18 months dh had a breakdown and left me with a newborn, I've had post natal depression after both children and I'm actually so upset about this I'm considering leaving him. It's like a kick in the teeth, symbolic of how little he cares or appreciates me now. He says he's left cards at work but I don't believe him. Abu to be so upset?

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Marne · 02/08/2010 10:24

I would be upset , Dh and i don't really bother with anniversarries but we always discus it first and then agree not to bother with cards. For him to forget/or not bother at all for either would make me , it doesn't take much effort to buy a few cards and get the kids to scribble in them.

Yes, you do deserve a card (and a medal for puuting up with him).

Helokitty · 02/08/2010 10:32

Is it? Does he care in other ways? I think sometimes, men just don't see it like that.

It was my birthday yesterday.

DH gave me, one present (which I bought myself), wrapped it up with the paper I bought. He gave me a card, after I drove him to the shops to buy one. In the evening, we went out for a family meal at a restaurant that I booked.

Basically, if I hadn't bothered, I would have been lucky to get much.

But DH is rubbish with birthdays - and I accept that from him, but he shows his love in different ways - he wakes me up with a cup of tea every morning, that's how he shows his love.

Does your DH show his love in other ways?

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BurningBuntingFlipFlop · 02/08/2010 10:34

No, not anymore

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needafootmassage · 02/08/2010 10:37

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aleene · 02/08/2010 10:38

I'm so sorry, that is rotten for you. I do know exactly how you feel because my DH has completely forgotten my birthday previously.
Try to enjoy your day and do something nice for yourself. You need to talk to him about how you feel but I don't think it should be today.
Birthday hug from me

Ibbysmum · 02/08/2010 12:16

BBFF it is my Birthday today, I am 34!!! Many Happy Returns to you. I hope things turn brighter later!

Mowgli1970 · 02/08/2010 12:21

Happy Birthday! I think your dh needs you to clarify just how upset you are. It's easy to forget each other when you have young kids. Tell him you deserve and want more.

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vaunieathome · 02/08/2010 14:09

Happy happy birthday! I am so sorry he is being such a git. A few years ago, my dh forgot my birthday but I made it QUITE CLEAR just how upset I was about this and he hasnt done it since. Before you think I am a terrible cow, all I demand is a birthday card (.....and one of those giant toblerones would be nice but not necessary!) so not really too much of a strain. You deserve more - make sure you tell him that you feel kicked in the teeth!

lucky1979 · 02/08/2010 17:34

Is there any chance he is planning something for the evening?

Happy birthday BTW

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