to stop dcs sleeping at mils

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i have a ds age 7, and 2dds age 2 & 3, mil often used to have dd1 stay over at her house on a saturday night, and my ds the od time {hes not keen on sleeping out}, she wont allow dd2 to stay over the reason being is when she was 7month old they were going to have her over night but she cried and they had to bring her back down at 8pm .
this was 16month ago and they wont have her since then, however they have just bought a new bed for dd1 to stay in so she can stay whenever she likes, i have told dh none of the kids are sleeping there now.
i can detect a sense of favouritism here !

Maybe having one child at a time is a pleasure for them, but any more than that in one go is too much like hard work. Tbh, that's fair enough. But unless they are willing to let all the children take it in turns to stay at some point, then I wouldn't let mine go either.

i wouldnt expect them to have all 3 together....however if they offered lol

I agree, your MIL needs to be prepared to take it in turns. Your DD2 will soon realise otherwise that she is getting second best treatment. Fair enough if she or your DS say they don't want to go but they should at least be offered the choice. Otherwise, none of them should go.

She won't have a 2 year old because they had the audacity to cry at the age of 7 months?? And she's happy for a child who is now old enought o understand such things to be rejected in favour of the elder girl? I definitely wouldn't let any of them sleep over. The woman sounds horrible!

thanks for all replies, needless to say i wont be letting any of them stay over anymore....

YANBU. They should at least offer to have their three grandchildren stay over (at different times if that is better for them) or your children will definitely start noticing - if they haven't already.

How will your MIL react?

Maybe she's just lost her confidence a bit with DD2 - could she have her in the day a few times before another attempt at an overnight?