Does she have a problem, or am I hormonal?

[Mammie81]

Theres a girl at work who ALWAYS has some comment on what Im doing wrong in my pregnancy... even when I havent done it yet!

Previously she has doubted my ability to cope with labour pains when I was discussing trying to have a natural birth. I'm happy to have the pain relief if I need it, Id just like to give the natural way a good go first!

And this morning GAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH!!!

I saw her on the bus and was mentioning going back to work/uni after my mat leave. Said I hoped that the baby would continue the sleeping patterns he has in my womb as some books/mums say that is the case! Jokingly said I had my fingers crossed that it was all true! (Im well aware that some books and mums are full of crap and I dont plan to follow any of them to the letter)

She said flat out, well thats not true. They sleep when they want. I was like, ok I do know that, but some people say they do. (Thinking Geez, shes touchy)

She said you just need to get them into a routine. I said hopefully he'll have a natural one that fits in with me as Id like to be in bed by 11! (again, just jocular chit chat)

She exploded 'DONT believe what you read in books, my neice did this, my neice did that! Why are you reading BOOKS?! If any of that were true, my neice would have done it'

I had to explain that I wasnt actually following these books, I was just mentioning that they existed!!!

Am I crazy or is she up her own arse?

YANBU she seems to have ishoos.

YWBU to ever try to have a normal / lightharted conversation about babies / pregnancy / anything with her again.

Just talk about anything other than babies next time

Maybe just maybe she is ttc, and is taking out all her frustrations on you, however that said she does seem a bit looney, and for future i suggest you try and avoid avoid AVOID.

Some people are little wound up!

YONBU. She sounds a nightmare, ignore her.

YANBU. She sounds a nightmare, ignore her.

Honestly if I mention anything, if her neice didnt do it, then no baby ever did it!

I'll avoid in future I think!!!

does she have her own DCs then?

maybe you should try saying "oh, I didn't realise you were an experienced mother"

or the smile, nod and "I'm sure you know best"

She doesnt have any children. Her mum is a midwife though.

So she must have learned everything her mum knows through osmosis....

Piss around with her a bit. Tell her something so bonkers and farfetched (like the thing about the baby following its in-utero sleep patterns ) and wait for her to bite.

Listen, I never said that was true! I just said some people say it is!

Ah but I might have a drug free labour! But then again I might baulk at 1cm and scream for the drugs!

How can any of us know? Which is why I think she should shut her trap. Im only discussing what I would like to happen, not what I think will definately, theres no other option, Im absolutely not taking the drugs, happen.

Agreed maybe I shouldnt talk to her about it. Well, until shes pregnant and I can remind her of all the things she 'recommended'! HA!

Yanbu to expect a bit of light hearted banter.

However as someone rightly said neither of you has been through birth yet so it's all just speculation.

Also, I've had two babies now and people who hold the idea of natural birth dear (and keep talking smugly about it) get right up my nose! I used to, I cringe at how annoying I must have been.

Clearly your friend feels like the expert as her mum is a midwife. She is not remotely an expert!

Tell her you're stockpiling tequila in preparation for pain relief.

That you've been practicing breastfeeding with the cat, so expect that a little toothless baby should be no bother.

I've heard the sleeping patterns in the womb thing too - why shouldn't it be true?

Because babies' sleep patterns change constantly.

Lol at zachary

YANBU, this girl may be ttc and that might be it, anyhoo, whatever just don't talk to her about babies and pregnancy!

My dd followed the exact sleep patterns as she did when inside. So that doesn't sound bonkers to me at all