To just want to be left alone for a few days?

[Ipom]

Since DP left I have had nothing but EVERYONE slagging him off. Yes what he did was shit and it was all over something stupid and we are working through it and giving it a second chance.

I have a repossession to battle with in court on Tuesday, the house is a tip, the kids are getting on my wick, the MIL just says everything will be alright if I loose the house and everything will go back to normal, I cant even talk to my mum about what I am doing as she doesnt want to hear anything to do with DP or my lack of money trouble, I'm sick of everyone giving me ear ache about him no matter what I say or try to explain. Mum wants me to move myself and the kids to the other side of the country closer to her (I have no-where to go and there are very few job prospects there, at least where I am I can get a job with relative ease and I still have a slim chance of saving the house)

Jesus Christ. All I want is a bloody shoulder to cry on, some helpful advice and for someone to understand why i am giving DP another chance and a bloody ciggy!

Is that really too much to ask?

(he wasnt shagging about, but it is a very weird and confusing story)

i remember your story.

perhaps they have a point...
are you going to join him?

is there absolutely nOBody who will be impartial?

Aww, bless you. No you are not asking too much. But that is often why those closest to you aren't always the best people to talk to. You need someone impartial that will just listen to you. You could try asking your GP if you can be referred for counselling or maybe try ringing/emailing the Samaritans? Not that either will give you advice or a ciggie, but it might help you sort out your own thoughts. Hope you are ok.

I remember your other thread

Can you pack the kids off somewhere for a few days and have the house to yourself?

I can see why you'd give him another chance. You have 11 years together, you have kids, he says he's sorry & he loves you, you love him... I have been just as stupid loving in the past [wry grin]

You might want to call him all names yourself and if he was here you might want to scream, shout & carry on, but when you want to give someone another chance, everyone else slagging them off is tiring & hurtful...

I dont know if I am going to join him. I want to but have a lot to talk through before I can commit to that.

I cant pack the kids off anywhere, there's no where to pack them off to.

I've already had the mortgage on the phone today and it wasnt even 8-30 am. Today is going to be a horrid day, tomorrow I have the court so I'm not looking forward to that and then wenesday is the eviction date. If the next 2 days dont work out I have to find somehwhere to live, pack and move in 6 hours. I DONT WANT TO HAVE TO DO THIS ANYMORE! I've done everything I can as back up plans but cant actually DO anything until I know one way or the other.

Ipom

I'm sorry this is happening, it sounds awful.

I may have missed another thread, but don't you IL's live nearby? Can't they have the kids for a few days??

Kepping everything crossed it goes ok for you tomorrow x

Jesus H Christ.

Today, Called the solicitors and they didnt know anything about my case, so this "we will buy your house and you rent it back" thing is useless, and they want all the paperwork for the repossesion cases the first being 5 years ago. Can I find them? NO. (there was only one)

The court can only find the hearing I had on November and the application for the hearing tomorrow. She is emailing them to me today.

Solicitors said they can not come and represent me without the paperwork and doubt they would be able to anyway as they are 3 hours away from the court.

So I call the mortgage company just for them to say, if you contact mortgage rescue in your council, if they fax us a letter saying there is an application for the rescue in place we will stop the eviction indefinatly.

Why the fuckity fucking bastard hell didnt anyone say this 3 weeks ago!!!

Now need to sit and wait for the council to call me back to get some more details and then they will fax the letter over AND send someone with me to the court.

I'll tell you something, if they can pull this off I will NEVER EVER complain about the council tax or the local council again.

Ipom, I don't know anything about your previous post, but an acquaintance had to sell her house and rent it back. She ended up paying more each month in rent than the mortgage. Can you go to Citizen's Advice Bureau? The person I knew declared herself bankrupt on their advice.

CAB have been absolutly useless. No-one has mentioned anything about this mortgage rescue. I have done what CAB asked which was to get my name on the housing list and applied for various benefits but that's it.

I've had to deal with this on my own.

Whereabouts are you Ipom? Sounds like you are up to your tonsils in it...thinking of you

Ipom - I'm a tad confused about what that all means - but as you sound very happy about it - I'm thrilled for you!!

Sheffield

Chipping, I can understand why you are confused. I am too.

I promise I will find the link to previous posts and then update in detail so everyone is up to speed.

Just have to try and save the house first.

How are things Ipom?

Well,

I went to court this morning and the mortgage company still opposed it. After a very horrible 20 minutes, the judge decided in my favour. My Last Chance.

I have to pay 1 months mortgage and the council have to find out if I qualify for mortgage rescue before the 7th september.

After that I went to the solicitors and sorted out a financial statement for the council. I have sorted out the council tax arrears ex left and the water too. So I am slowly getting there. The main bit relies on my ex signing the paperwork to release the house to the council. Something which I am confident he will do.

Not out of the woods yet but I'm not getting thrown out of the house yet either.

Slowly, slowly catchy monkey.

Hi Ipom,
Was watching your thread yesterday and am glad things are more positive for you!

Great. Every step forward helps, right? Here's hoping that it's onwards and upwards from here. Keep us posted and well done you!

Thanks.

Just very relieved that SOMEONE has given me a chance.

It was hard to keep quiet while I have the mortgage saying I am irresponsible and do nothing to help myself, especially when she recommended that the kids should be put into care while I sort out alternative accomodation for tomorrow. When I have done nothing but try to get this all sorted in a matter of a couple of weeks, They have been informed of every single step I have taken so I thought that a bit unfair, but hey ho I can see why they say things like that. It IS her job after all to win the case for the mortgage company so I wont hold it against her.

Am talking with a debt adviser now about getting a financial statment for the council so they can get on with the rescue application. I have done everything I can for today, so am just going to strighten up this house, get the kids washed and in bed and have a very long hot soak in the bath.

I can not thank you all enough for the support over these past few weeks. You have been amazing.

Thank you.

What a dreadful situation, you are coping so well its amazing. Enjoy the bath and be glad today is now behind you.

Ipom, I remember your original thread. Just wanted to wish you luck and hope everything works out for you. Giving you a very unMNy (((hug))). Enjoy your soak.

wow ipom just read related thread

I'm in complete shock! YANBU for wanting to be left alone, i'm sorry you have no one you feel you can talk to in rl. Hope things get better soon

have a (((hug))) if anyone needed or deserved one its you!

wow ipom just read the related thread

I'm in complete shock! YANBU for wanting to be left alone, i'm sorry you have no one you feel you can talk to in rl. Hope things get better soon

have a (((hug))) if anyone needed or deserved one its you!

Thank you again.

I've had a shower in peace and instead of the bath I'm taking the notebook to bed and play on Farmville for a while. There's a few people on there I need to update too.