to be feeling so angry.

[PinkyMe]

My husband's is recovering from a fairly bad motorbike accident. We only have one child who's 2. Because of his accident I now have to do more or less everything. Lots of fetching, all the cooking and housework, looking after our dd, work and the nursery run. I don't really mind this as I know that there are folks with much more on their plate.
So Why am I so angry? It started this weekend when my FIL rang and asked if I'd been asleep all day and had I cut the grass. This is pretty much his thing. Rings once a week and always asks these daft interfering questions. Normally I just brush it off but I can't stop thinking about it. I am 33, I know how to keep my house. If I don't do it your way, SO WHAT!
Unfortunately, my daughter has been quite difficult today, whinging and doing things she shouldn't, which has resulted in me telling her off a few times. I feel bad as I think she is probably acting up to get my attention but I haven't been able to kick my mood.
I am also irritated at my hubby, not sure why! He's not anything except stay clear of my bad mood. Grrr
God, I hope things improve tomorrow.

I take it back I know why I'm irritated at my hubby. He has just shouted to from the other rrom, "Are we eating this pie, or what". If he's not careful, he will be wearing it in a minute .

Tell your FIL that you will cut the lawn if he has DD for you for a few hours

Sorry to hear about your DH

Poor Pinky
your FIL is a loon who thinks he is witty, but he is not unusual, lots of them are.
Your DH has used up your patience; I'm not surprised. Your little one is picking up on your mood.
What can you do to change your mood?
I know you can't go out, but maybe put them both to bed. then have a bubble bath and a glass of wine.
Can you see a friend tomorrow for a change?
And is he wearing the pie?

You should have said 'no sorry no time what with looking after your son, what time can you come round to mow it?'

You're entitled to feel angry, you have a lot to deal with just now. Don't pick up the phone next week when FIL phones and tell him you couldn't hear it because you were outside cutting the grass!

Ditto Colliecross - brilliant!! Tell FIL he is a twat and if he has nothing helpful to say save on his phone bill! Sorry that probably wasnt very helpful.

I like compo's suggestion, perhaps even just "what a king offer, so thoughtful to think about how you could help when I'm under such a lot of pressure looking after your son"

Thanks for your replies. Love them and I would tell FIL to come do it but he lives 2 hrs away so their visits are normally a whole weekend. You would think this would help but they are so intense that I find their visits quite stressful. Why can't they be more like my parents? My mum wouldn't even notice my pile of ironing and if she did, she'd just do it without making an almighty song and dance about it first.

They have just informed us they are coming for the weekend. So to avoid the critism I am off, at 10.30 at night, to make a start on my pile of ironing.

ps. I like the idea of avoiding the phone. Def going to try it this week.

The PIL have "informed you" that they are coming for the weekend? No wonder you're pissed off!

My mother does that too. When she told me that she was visiting last week I said that I was busy. I am just sick of being told and not asked!

I damn well hope that the PIL are going to make the effort this weekend to help with mowing the lawn/caring for DD/running the home whilst your DH is out of action.

And wishing your husband a speedy recovery too.

Thank God I don't have any PIL.Remember them vaguely from first marriage...what a nightmare.