My dp has said he is not in love with me anymore

[sweetbloom]

Should I put his bag out tomorrow and ask him to leave,we also have a family do what should I do please help?.

I'm so sorry. Can you talk to him? What does he want to happen?

what made him to say that today?
did you argue?

whos family is coming?
{{{{{{{big hug}}}}}}}

I'm so sorry. Can you talk to him? What does he want to happen?

I dont know our friends have caused some upset in the last few days,I dont want to see them any more told him this,he then said this.
And if he leaves he will only give £300 per mnth I said I will get his bag he can leave in the morning, he said if he goes he wont come back we have kids.

I don't think is about friends...

Can't you both sleep on it and have chat another day?

Making hasty decisions in the middle of the night may not be the best option for the whole family...

His family tomorrow what do I do and all the bills go out,do I tak ethe money out of his account?,and leave.

how old are your kids?

who does the house belong to?

Sorry bills due out in the next few days if he goes tomorrow we will be struggling.I dont know what to do and im thin on the ground for friends at the moment.

its housing in both names, young under 4.

maybe transfer money out if you have separate account to be able to cover bills?

isthat account shared for both of you?

how many kidsdo you have?

It's not up to him how much he "gives" you, the clarets will decide.

Any back story here?

I guess you have 2 kids, both under 4
do you work?

yes cant explain now had enough and hurt by his comments.

So goes in the rest i have to use his card for.

Only one day a week?.

can you pay bills now?
in advance?

don't make any hasty decisions
I mean - if you want him out that's fine

but have look at
www.turn2us.org.uk/benefits_search.aspx on Monday

call necessary numbers - prepare yourself for the split
buy that time and get asmuch advice as you can

thanks i have to go now i have my kids waking up first thing thanks x.

have good night

and you.

Sorry, my spellcheck turned courts into clarets. Sleep well op.

do you want to put his bag out?

aside from money, how do YOU feel?

my ex dp left one day when dd was 9 months,

that was it, no talk, no reason, no other woman, just gone.

sometimes its tough, it was for me, he left before i returned to work after maternity leave.

i never thought i could manage.

i did.

i did because i wanted to, because i had no other option.

you need to take a long hard look at wether you want him back, begging and pleading or not,

is he what you and your children need?

i wish you strength and luck and independance and courage with what ever choices you make...

If the kids are his he is legally obliged to pay a certain amount of money per month towards their support, whether or not you are married. it's not up to him how much it is. You will also probably be entitled to some benefits, child tax credit, income support, etc, depending on whether or not ou work.
If he wants to leave then, well, that's up to him, but anyone leaving a relationship has a moral obligation to be civilised and fair about doing so, especially when there are DC involved. If he doesn't intend to leave but is using the threat of Not Loving You Any More to make you submit and obey, then it would be a very good thing to know the facts about your legal/financial position so if he starts talking bollocks about leaving you penniless/taking the DC to live with him aned his new wife or whatever, you will know he's talking bollocks.

solid is not often wrong,

and,

more often than not speaks words of wisdom you would be hard pushed to get else where...

Thanks everyone Im not sure what to think but if he really does not love me there is no point being together anymore.
Kids are asleep at the moment I may go out dont know what to do really.?

Bump
Hes gone and have limited money where do I go from here?