To realise who my real friends are?

[sweetbloom]

I have had a week from hell had an argument with a friend for something that had nothing to do with me and stood up for mys,saying a few thinga thathad built up.
I may have lost a long time friendship but deep down I realise I dont need various friends in my life causing problems for me.
Is this normal to look at finding real friends who dont talk amongst your social group.

Oh gosh yes, life is far too short to be dealing with people like that.

A few years ago, I let go of a lot of friendships with people who just brought me down all the time, and who were quite nastky behind my back and increasingly, nasty to my face as well.

I only have a handful of friends now, but they are real friends who I am almost 100% certain wouldn't bitch about me.

Thanks Lolapoppins I have been very upset this week my firnds talk about me, certain friends dont like each other they need to know each others business.
I have got to the stage its the same certain people and it has started to make me question my frienship,thank you.

Life is really too short. If somebody is draining your energy, then sayonara.

I think so yes, as presently re evaluating my own social and work circle due to recent events that have opened my eyes to others behaviour towards myself and others. I dont like all the gossiping or the little unkind comments from so called good friends.

Its only now in my 30s that I've noticed and thought - actually I dont have to put up with it! I have a handfull of really good friends that i dont see often enough so am just going to concentrate on those and prob just give a wide berth to others.

Are you sure you dont need this friend? Maybe she has had a bad week too and its just bad timing esp if you have been friends years, good luck

No I dont think so she belived a horrid n rumour and believed I would say a mean thing ,and has not apologised after I explained it was nothing to do with me.

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Please I need all the advice I can get.

well does not sound like she'd be a great loss! You'll feel better too once you have made that decision. Friends are meant to be good for you, you've tried to explain i think you have done your part I'd forget her. Hope I have been some help, wish I'd of come on here when I was feeling down on the world may of felt better faster!

Im sorry to hear that Sftw I wish I would off been around, I would do anything to have good friends, thank you for replying.