to be annoyed with DP's non communication on his stag do?

[grumblinalong]

Sigh. I suspect I'm turning into a raging cliche fishwife with this but I'm f**ked off so here goes.

DP set off on his stag do (in a city in this country) at 6.30am yesterday morning so didn't see the DS's (age 2&6) as they were in bed. He's due back tomorrow night. I haven't heard anything from him, not a text, phone call, email, nothing. I sent him a text message yesterday saying I have to start my new job 4 days before the wedding and we've had a last minute viewing on our house today. You would have thought he'd reply right?

Or am I being unreasonable to be thinking he probably hasn't got time with all the beer and strippers and other stag do type things. Maybe I'm just annoyed that I cleaned the house for 4 hours and the viewers stayed 10 minutes. Grr. AIBU?

Hmm I'm not sure. DP is on his friend's stag do in Amsterdam at the mo. He rang me yesterday for a few mins just to check I was ok (I have been ill). He texted today too.

I didn't expect him to though.

That hasn't helped you.... Sorry! Haha

I can definitly understand your frustration!
Buuut ime alot of stags have their phones confiscated so they can't be 'whipped' by the wifey!

I don't think I've expected him to but I kind of wanted him to want to (without sounding like a complete pathetic girl).

If I hadn't texted him I'd be alright but it's the decisive non reply that's annoyed me.

Yadnbu,

what a load of crap, bloody stag do's, why couldnt he just have had a few drinks down the local with mates instead of the need to go away.

especially if you have kids. its rude and ignorant, and you mentioned strippers, why do men use weddings/getting married as an excuse to see skanks getting their bits out.

what a cliche!!

Try to chill out. I wouldn't expect to be checking my phone if it were me in that situation- he is supposed to be relaxing with his mates, not staying up-to-date on the domestic situation. Stop texting him, surely it can wait?

I suspect his phone's been confiscated.

Isn't the whole point of a stag do to be irresponsible and naughty for one last time before you are nailed to the floor by domestic responsibilities, nose to the grindstone, collar and leash welded on?
Of course, if you've already got the house and the kids, he shouldn't have had a stag do at all.

Awww, bless him. He's off having a good time with this mates and I think he's allowed to be off radar for a little while. Obviously someone needs to be accessing his phone in case of emergency but let the poor man off the hook.

I suspect you're a wee bit jealous that he's off being irresponsible while you're stuck at home..? Just make sure you get a really good hen do!

'let the poor man off the hook.'
I don't think she wants to, not even for a weekend. So, the perfect wedding gift...a scock collar. You get to choose where it's fitted. Let him ignore you then...

Freudian typo.
Shock collar

Agree he unlikely to even have access to his phone.

Don't be grumpy, you cleaned the house for the viewer, but you get to be in a nice clean house too.

Are you having a nice hen do too? (and have you arranged for your bridesmaid to be over tonight?)

It doesn't sounds as if either of those things required a reply, I'm sure he would have if it had been an emergency. I thought the point of a stag do was to spend a bit of time away from your spouse-to-be.

I let my OH go away last weekend, even though it was our 26th Wedding Anniversary.
And he didn't phone or anything. But he did leave a pot of Haagendazs in the freezer, and my presents on the table so I let him off.

DP went to a (not overnight) stag do on my last birthday.

Ah well, he just phoned me and was incoherent but at least he phoned! I know I was BU really, I've had some cider and have come to my senses. I used to be so cool. But now I'm not.

I had my hen do last week and it was so bloody tame I suspect that yes, I was jealous and as you say FakePlasticTrees at least I'm sitting in a lovely clean house instead of the hovel it usually is.

Doesn't sound like any strippers have been involved either as he has been to see The Fall. Poor thing.