to want to talk about my baby?

[Butterpie]

Meh. My sisters have announced that I have to go to my parents house for a hen party. I am here now, it starts at 3.

I just want an afternoon of catching up with old friends, maybe out to the pub after, but they have bought in huge amounts of booze (and a token bottle of appletise as I can't drink) and booked a table at a kareoke.

They have told me that my Dad has to take the kids out (including 8mo bf DD2 who is teething and kept me up all night) and i just overheard that they want to play "hilarious" games of stopping anyone talking about babies/breastfeeding and dressing up as DP.

I'm in pain and limping from bad spd, I have hardly slept, I don't really drink anymore (at least not in the quantities I did when I was a teenager) and I feel like crying. They have false boobs and so on for me to wear. I suspect they want to spike my drink.

I am apparently unreasonable for not wanting to go pole dancing. They told me off for the children making noise and waking them up THREE hours after the kids woke me up. They have a busy day, don't I know?

Meh, meh, and thrice MEH.

Say you feel ill and need to go to bed

Is this supposes to be 'your' hen party?

If so I highly recommend you just walk out the door with your DC and don't come back!

Tell them you don't want to do all that crap. As bronze says feign illness and go home.

go for a little bit then make som excuse then leave, thats what i would do

Im with Bronze!

Good grief - is this YOUR hen party? If so, tell them to sod off and go pole dancing on their own

Idiots

Tell them to carry on and have a good time without you as this is clearly a party for them and not for you, even if it is meant to be your hen party (is it?) It's not what you want, you're not up to it and you're offski with the DC for a quiet afternoon in. Sorry an all that, but they should have checked with you first what you wanted.

That's what I'd do. I can't be doing with people imposing their idea of a good time on a party meant to be for me, sisters or no. I've had Strong Words with my own sis in the past re things like this (although not hen party).

Actually, I don't think it is your hen party, re-reading - but still tell 'em where to stick it. Or just go for a single drink and then leave again.

It must be her hen party if they want to dress up s her DP . Sounds childish, dull as shite and I'd say no thanks and go home. Your hen night is supposed to be something you'd enjoy.

Still confused. Whose hen party is it?

Ah no, you're right - I've just read that she's getting married in a few weeks so must be hers.

Definitely sack it then (this is one of the reasons I didn't have one at all)

same sisters that tried to take over the wedding day aswell? me thinks these girls need a good talking to.

They what? Right, send them here.

I think we can sort them out...

Oh, just re-read OP. This day revolving around their self-indulgence will have already started...

Tell them what you've just told us and tell them what YOU want to do on YOUR hen do....more to the point tell them what you DON'T want to do aswell. I hope you enjoy it in the end. x

Don't do it, phone your mates and do what YOU want to do & let them do the boozy kareoke thing without you.

Throw the mother of all hormonal strops and get the hell out of there!

YANBU. If this is your Hen Party. Just tell them you don't want to do this and will organise your own hen party in the way you want.

I would refuse. If it is your hen party-you organise it and send the invites and do it your way.

Oh dear. YA so not BU.

Do what SergeantAngua suggests.;)

I hope you end up having a good time.

NO is a complete sentence.

I refused a hen night for far fewer reasons than you've given. Please say no. It's supposed to be your time, not theirs!

Tell them to enjoy their party but you are doing something else that is actually about you.

They are being horrendous! Is your mum involved with this in any way?

Selfish, Selfish (them not you). If it's your hen party then it should be for you and what you're about. I now that (when) I get married my hen party will now be something like a cottage, a few bottles of wine and lovely food with my greatest friends. Good chat and generally civilised. Things move on from what you've described, nothing wrong with it if it's your thing but it obviously isn't...

If it's not yours, don't go. If it is yours kick up a stink and refuse to go (or any of the other suggestions).

Good luck and keep us posted...

(PS couldn't you get your dad to refuse his part???)
PPS if all else fails just turn into a bridezilla (from their point of view).

I don't get Hen and Stag Nights when the participants have already got children.

If it is supposed to be saying goodbye to single life and responsibility-free living, then I kind of get it as a last fling...

But when people have the children already, then everyone knows children and hangovers don't go, so what's the point.

Tell 'em you're looking forward to getting married, but you already have the responsibilities of a mother, so this kind of thing is completely inappropriate.

... Blimey, I'm fun, aren't I?