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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to reject romantic night away?

18 replies

4plus1 · 31/07/2010 09:38

Dh and i agreed no holiday this year as we just moved house and also it would be difficult with children being quite young, dc: 8,6,4,2,6mths. But he has booked night at a spa hotel for anniversary on monday and organised for his sis and neice to babysit. But i just feel really guilty leaving all 5 with someone and also us being in a fancy hotel while the kids are at home. Dh is trying to persuade me. Am i mad for feeling guilty,

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ilove · 31/07/2010 09:41

Totally, totally mad. Get off and ENJOY it!

nagoo · 31/07/2010 09:41

yes. There's two of them. They will be fine and it's just one night.

Why should you not be in a fancy hotel? You'll enjoy it, and they'll be fine!

If you said you were going on a three week cruise then maybe YANBU, but it's only a night!

Go Go Go

shushpenfold · 31/07/2010 09:42

ENTIRELY UNREASONABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go woman go...NOW....FAST....

Mowgli1970 · 31/07/2010 10:06

Go and enjoy it, it's only one night!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 31/07/2010 10:07

YABUAM (and mad)

FiveGoMadInDorset · 31/07/2010 10:13

What a great DH you have. Go, your sister and niece would not have agreed to babysit if they didn't want to do it.

potoftea · 31/07/2010 10:14

You need a break away to keep your relationship healthy, so really going away is for the children

You sound like you feel bad enjoying yourself while the dc are missing out on a holiday. But chances are they'll have a lovely time while you are away and will be wishing you were away longer.

Chil1234 · 31/07/2010 10:26

In 10 or 15 years time, none of you children would feel even slightly bad about spending the night in a fancy hotel and leaving mum and dad at home..... Go, enjoy yourself, forget about being a mum for a while and resist the temptation to phone home every 20 minutes.

Morloth · 31/07/2010 10:32

LOL, are you mad? Off you go.

onadietcokebreak · 31/07/2010 10:35

You are mad....go for it!!!!

rubbersoul · 31/07/2010 10:45

Go and have a great time! What a lovely hubby you have

toccatanfudge · 31/07/2010 10:45

Bloody hell woman! Are you insane - go go go go go go!!!!!

tanmu82 · 31/07/2010 10:56

GOOOOOOOOOO! I would love a Spa break! With 5 kids, I'm sure opportunities to spend some quality time with the DH are few and far between.....go, relax and enjoy yourselves and eachother

LisaD1 · 31/07/2010 11:53

GO,GO,GO! You are still you, a wife, a lover, a friend, not just mummy! Go and enjoy the night with your lovely, thoughtful DH.

IsItMeOr · 31/07/2010 11:59

What a lovely husband! Can understand while you feel weird about it, as I'm guessing it doesn't happen very often, but definitely go and enjoy it.

You can buy sister and niece a nice gift to say thanks

mumeeee · 31/07/2010 16:12

YABU and yea a bit mad. Your children will be fine and so will thier babysitters. Go and enjoy yourself.

PotteringAlong · 31/07/2010 16:58

I would already have my bag packed...! They will be fine, sis would not have volunteered if she wasn't sure, it's a lovely, lovely thing for your DH to do. Go and enjoy it!

BitOfFun · 31/07/2010 17:09

Of course you should go. If you reject the lovely gesture from your husband, he will understandably be miffed and feel pushed away. There is a lot to be said for looking after your relationship when you have a family- it is so important to recharge your batteries, and also model what a good solid partnership looks like for your children. Teaching them that the lot of a mother is all about noble self-sacrifice is not going to help them be happy in the long run.

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