OK quick background is that an ex of mine was very bad with drinking. His binges would be out of the blue and he would turn very VERY nasty in them. All other partners have been involved in some drug use (whether just dope or more serious usage) and all drinkers. I used to drink myself but am now tee total.
My reasons for going tee total are that drinking makes me uneasy. I worry that people quickly lose control. I worry that people are affected how ever slightly after the first two glasses (depending on your body I guess). I just worry. I know it is quite irrational because most people that drink know when to stop and how much they can drink before getting drunk, and those that get drunk are fine drunk, just louder etc. I KNOW that, but when it comes to people actually drinking around me i start to get nervous and feel very uneasy about it. Again, I KNOW that it is only down to my experiance with ex (Also tee total because I chose not to get drunk anymore - PITA when drunk - and I am a person that doesn't see the point unless getting drunk)
Here is the problem. I have met someone and am considering (well, pretty sure we will) starting a relationship with him after my divorce at the end of this year. He likes to drink like most people but doesn't get drunk. What's the problem then? I dunno, when he says he is going to have a few drinks with his mates I start worrying about it. How stupid I know!!! He knows this and says that if it makes me uneasy he wont drink at all.... (how sweet I know!!) but I don't wanna do that too him! but if we do get together I will be nervous about him drinking around me.... maybe I will get used to it? I know it's something I just need to get passed and I hope to one day but I think the alcohol thing is just too raw atm.
AIBU to say to this guy 'really? You wouldn't drink for me? thanks...' and let him do that? I feel very unreasonable....
Ladies... talk me through it please!!