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AIBU?

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To not have given my baby any chocolate buttons yet?

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jaggythistle · 30/07/2010 16:15

I have nothing against chocolate in any form, it just hadn't occurred to me to give him any! He is 10mo now.

I go to a baby group which is on a morning, DS has usually only just had his breakfast by the time we get out the door. I seem to be one of the only ones without wee tubs of snacks about my person for the hour long expedition, so I am wondering if I am wierd!

I have been asked over the last few months if he was 'allowed' a chocolate button which caught me on the hop because I hadn't really thought about it. DS was too busy investigating the toys to be bothered so it didn't really matter. Their babies were younger than mine too so it made me think.

TBH I have been concentrating on getting the hang of him eating food, so hadn't thought about sweeties. He has the odd biscuit and stuff to chew on so he does have some wee snacks.

Not especially controversial this one, interested in opinions on whether I am odd though.. ;)

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poppymouse · 30/07/2010 16:19

No. YANBU. You won't be unusual if you avoid until it becomes a pain not to avoid. I give DS a treat if I'm having one but he still goes mad for fruit so let him get on with it.

enzed · 30/07/2010 16:20

My 9 mo has only had 1 white chocolate button - mainly because I didn't think to buy chocolate for her,as I wouldn't let her eat any more than a couple, and they would just go off. If she does have a snack, she gets a wee rice-cake or some fruit.

I don't have anything particularly against her having 1 chocolate button, I just haven't really seen the point (and I don't really eat chocolate myself either).

Like you, my dd has had the occasional biscuit, but more for learning to feed her self, chew and have different textures.

And no, I don't think you are odd.

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jaggythistle · 30/07/2010 16:23

Now if DS only had 1or 2, I on the other hand would be happy to finish them for him, definitely a bad idea then.

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Squitten · 30/07/2010 16:23

No YANBU

I think my DS was given far too much sweet crap by overindulgent family at far too early an age and he's a really fussy eater now with a real sweet tooth. His little brother will now be paying the price for it because I plan to ensure that nothing sweet except fruit gets to him for as long as possible!

sapphireblue · 30/07/2010 16:25

my DD1 didn't have her first taste of chocolate until she was passed 1.......despite my MIL trying to giver her choc buttons at 3 months old (it would just "melt on her tongue" apparently )

Morloth · 30/07/2010 16:26

YANBU, I don't get the snacking thing. Why are people always feeding their kids?

I was caught short this Monday at DS's tennis lessons as I hadn't packed a snack, it was only a 2 hour lesson! He had water, why did they need to stop halfway to eat? He took a banana for the rest of the week.

Porcelain · 30/07/2010 16:27

I'm pretty sure that it is perfectly ok to not offer your child junk food when they have access to healthy stuff they enjoy.

It's not like you are depriving him, he doesn't know he's "missing out" (probably because he isn't). If he was interested, or asking about something he saw someone else eating, then I would probably give him a little taste, if only so as not to make it seem like something "special" which might make him want it more.

He doesn't want it, he certainly doesn't need it YANBU at all.

Morloth · 30/07/2010 16:27

Sorry I know you asked about chocolate buttons. No, YANBU.

Chocolate buttons are nice, but hardly one of the major food groups.

Blondeshavemorefun · 30/07/2010 16:31

tbh under 1's esp if pfb dont need or know about chocolate

where as your 2/3rd child will prob have evrything earlier as sees older siblings have it

agree about snacking morloth - my older 2 were at tennis 10/12 this week and stopped for a snack - yes i gave them one but only as have learnt from previous lessons, and i give fruit or marmite rice cakes

some other children had chocolate bars and crisps

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jaggythistle · 30/07/2010 16:32

I kind of alluded to the snacking thing too I suppose - I haven't really introduced regular snacks and only take them out if we are away for a day.

He has them to practice feeding himself as previously mentioned and if he looks a bit interested after finishing a meal I suppose. (Or maybe occasionally in a restaurant to distract him while I finish my pudding )

Plus I really don't fancy cleaning chocolate off him too. He examines things for ages before eating them so I think he'd have melted any buttons...

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withorwithoutyou · 30/07/2010 16:33

No, but it seems strange that you have to ask - you should try to have more confidence in your parenting decisions

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jaggythistle · 30/07/2010 16:36

I was more wondering how normal giving out the buttons was - I have refused them on his behalf so far I guess, but I get the impression some people have thoght I am being a bit PFB for want of a better term.

Generally meant to be a light hearted AIBU though

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MathsMadMummy · 30/07/2010 16:39

oh there'll always be people who think 'lighten up' - but YANBU at all, just ignore them. what they haven't tasted, they can't miss!

BlackandGold · 30/07/2010 16:41

You could always offer to eat it for him.......

MathsMadMummy · 30/07/2010 16:57

oh I always do that. it's my duty as a parent.

OrmRenewed · 30/07/2010 16:58

Is it a formal milestone then?

OrmRenewed · 30/07/2010 16:59

I am still struggling to catch up with the parents in my ante-natal group that gave their 9m old skips as a snack. I don't think I'll ever reach that milestone.

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jaggythistle · 30/07/2010 17:00

Ah, OrmRenewed, we are just so backward...

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Doodleydoo · 30/07/2010 17:05

My dd now has chocolate buttons as a treat for getting to the potty on time, bad I know but she is 2.7 years not 9 mo. It would never ever have crossed my mind to have given her chocolate or crisps before 1. After all they have a lifetime to make those decisions for themselves. Sad thing is even though I didn't give her those things she still runs in the other direction from anything that isn't a piece of apple, breaded chicken or bread................not entirely sure where I went wrong......perhaps I should have given her buttons at 9 months!

timeouttimeagain · 30/07/2010 17:07

In psychology, there's a process whereby someone sets up a conversation so that other people do the bitching for them. They are bitching, but trying to make it look like they aren't.

These kind of disingeneous threads are just such an example of this.

So for that, YABU.

Morloth · 30/07/2010 17:08

AIBU is for bitching.

timeouttimeagain · 30/07/2010 17:10

I agree Morloth - nail your colours to the mast and just slag them off I say, rather than starting a faux-innocent thread "oh dear me, should I give my baby chocolate buttons?"

sweetkitty · 30/07/2010 17:12

PFB does not need chocolate buttons

Subsequent siblings will find them on the floor and eat them!

Honeydragon · 30/07/2010 17:12

yabu - giving babies chocolate is the excuse for finishing the bar / packet yourself

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jaggythistle · 30/07/2010 17:13

I honestly didn't want to bitch thanks very much.

I really hadn't thought of giving him chocolate so was wondering (in a light hearted fashion I hoped) if I was being odd to turn the offers down.

It doesn't keep me awake at night or anything

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