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to think adults shouldn't involve themselves in kiddie politics?

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TwoIfBySea · 29/07/2010 21:34

To be honest, at the moment I'm very tired of this whole situation.

One of the neighbourhood girls (aged 8) has taken it upon herself to tell lies about my dts (also 8) and it is starting to get out of hand. The lies mainly revolve around accusations that they have hit her toddler brother (who I think is too young to be playing in the street.) This happens despite the fact that my sons are at one part of the street, far enough away that they'd need to be Stretch Armstrong to do what they are being accused of.

Worse is, her mother shouted at them when I was at work so yesterday I was keeping a close eye on them. Again, the mother and her gang of cronies were huddled together having a good gossip. My two and their friend were making little skateboard jumps and this girl and her brother were constantly at them. The mother did nothing even though she must have seen her dd purposefully taunt the boys and deliberately try and break the jump. Every time the boys told the little one to go away (otherwise he'd be squished) he started crying saying they were hitting him. I'm standing right there, she is standing not that far from me. I just don't get it!

Believe me if my boys do something wrong they are punished, grounded. But they are not. Now this woman is going around bad mouthing them to everyone. They moved in last year but typically in this little clique of a town, they seem to know everyone else. Whereas I'm just the pathetic single mum whose husband dumped her and who doesn't fit in.

Now, this afternoon, one of the other dads began shouting really aggressively at the boys and their friend for building their skateboard ramp again (this consists of a plank and two bricks.) My mum was outside at the time and was really shocked at how he reacted but then, the girl's mother had spent all afternoon sitting on their porch so god knows what is being said.

What is my point of this other than venting? I just think kid politics should be left for the kids to sort out. This girl goes to the parents to tell her fibs and they believe her because she is one of them. To see a group of mothers standing on the street slagging of your children when you know they haven't done wrong is heart breaking. And hopefully we are moving from here soon, as this is is rented from a ha I'm wondering if the pressure is on to make us move so they can get our house.

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scurryfunge · 29/07/2010 21:37

Ignore the lot of them and get on with your own life.

TwoIfBySea · 29/07/2010 21:38

Its what I've always done scurryfunge but my dts are going to be like prisoners in their house until they move I think.

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EvilTwins · 29/07/2010 21:39

YANBU

I completely agree with you. From experience... My DTDs and their "best friend" cut each others' hair at nursery a few months ago, and the other girl's mother (who was a really close friend) will no longer speak to me.

When I was a child, I lived in a very small village, and was constantly falling in and out of friendships with the other three girls of my age on our little street. I remember my mother refusing to get involved, as
a) if she intervened, by the time she'd "sorted" whatever issue it was, we'd have forgotten about it anyway
b) she genuinely felt it was nothing to do with her.

OP, you are completely right. Kids need to learn to sort out their own friendship issues anyway - it's a life skill.

turnitup · 29/07/2010 21:43

YANBU

However I would just encourage yours not to play out the front and just avoid the situation.

scurryfunge · 29/07/2010 21:44

They will only be prisoners if you treat them as such.....continue with your business regardless, they are idiots.

TwoIfBySea · 29/07/2010 22:20

Thanks, I know you are all right it is just that now the parents are getting involved when it really isn't our business. I grew up like you Eviltwins and our parents would never have behaved like that.

I think I'm just stressing because I know they didn't do anything, saw it with my own eyes.

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