To be mildly irriated when people say ''don't worry about the housework...''

[poshsinglemum]

(accidentaly posted in relationships!)

Concentrate on your dc instead.

Lovely idea if dc didn't generate the kind of housework that cannot be left. Unlike the old days it's no longer about dusting a few corners is it?

Newborns bring poo stained baby gros, reusable nappies have to be washed and milk-stained bedding has to be dealt with.

Whilst weaning there's all the cooking, blending and cleaning thrown food off the floor and high chair.

Toddlers generate more mess than I ever thought possible. My carpet is heinous and I hoover every day at least. Nothing stays tidy.It's carnage.

I don't mind a bit of mess and I don't want a show home but I don't want to live in squalid filth. It's not like I can just leave that wee and ground in cheese to fester in the carpet.

I guess my point is that I can leave low level housework like polishing but I cannot afford to do no housework and just concentrate solely on palying with dd. I would enjoy being a mum so much more if it wasn't for the drudgery. A cleaner is the answer I think.

Feed them baby. LOL. Sorry.

it bugs the life out of me too. How i could i possibly forget about the housework, my ds scatters cds and dvds everywhere, throws anything he can get his hand on the the stairs and if he's jammie enough to get into the bathroom unsupervised he puts things down my toilet..leave housework you must be bloody kidding!

yanbu, there has to be a balance between both
i doubt the children themselves would like to grow up in squalor anyway!
you can also involve them in housework a bit, so you are both getting things done and spending time with them, depending on the age...
but playing by themselves or watching cbeebies a bit while you clean the house will not harm anyone, dirty living conditions would harm them a lot more.
i also wonder why people say this, and sometimes people say with a newborn "you'll never get chance to clean anything, or even have a shower yourself" - they do sleep!

YANBU.

Children create a million times more mess than an adult. Even a slattern like me needs to keep the house presentable and hygienic.

Babies poo yellow poo everywhere.

Weaning babies chuck splodges of food / half chewed break on the floor and somehow ruin every item of clothing you put on them.

Toddlers throw toys everywhere / squeeze out toothpaste tubes / mix their weetabix and orange juice up .

Do they?! Not mine! She's been asleep for 5 mins - first time all day when not feeding. Am I starting the housework now - no chance! I'm off to bed for another sleepless night - oh joy!

That was to Firawla

Gaelicship, do not despair. 3 out of my 4 have not slept - I sound a bit like you sound. My daughter slept but not my sons. It may have nothing to do with gender - but I feel you pain! xx

I try not to let it worry me, but it ends up stressing me out. One of my worries is that someone will just "pop in" without giving me notice and find out what we really live like .

I'd say that my house is very clean, but very messy alot of the time.

Cathycat - the funny thing is I thought my DS didn't sleep. But DD - now I know what not sleeping really is!