I have made some fantastic friends since having DS and we have all become very close. Some of our DH's have become friends too through the wives. A couple of friends want their DH's to get out a but more too so we thought of having a big BBQ. We have planned it for the 28th August.
An old 'friend' (I would say more acquaintance these days seeing as I have seen her 3 times in 3 years and then she spent half her time texting someone) is getting married and she said ages ago about sending me an invite. I didn't hear anything and I sent her a message on facebook asking when her wedding was and she never replied. This morning I got an invite for the evening do and its on the 28th August.
Me and this woman were best friends at school, when it suited her. She was a bit of a user and when someone else would come along, she would bugger off with them, then come back to me when she was fed up and I always let her. We went on holiday when we were 18 with 2 other friends and it was a nightmare. She spent the whole week literally running away from me and another girl and buggering off with her latest best mate who was the other girl. We stopped speaking after that for a few years but we got back in touch and just kept in touch now and again, but it was me doing the chasing as usual and I gave up which is why I have seen her so few times recently. She only works a mile from my house too so it would be quite easy for her to visit.
Should I make the effort and go to the evening do? The BBQ is probably in the afternoon as our DCs are all going to be there too, so I could do both although I may have to leave the BBQ, or should I just cut my losses and not bother with her? DH isn't fussed at all on going to the wedding reception but he would go if I sadi we were going.
I also can't tell her that we aren't coming because we are going to a BBQ can I?
WWYD?