to see a show in April, if baby is born in Dec?

[Mammie81]

Asked friend if we should see show in April, as tickets dont come out till March.

We both live in London, I work in London so its not a major trip for me.

She doesnt want to go as she thinks it would be a bad time for me to leave the baby, as he'll be 4 months old and I (hopefully) will be breastfeeding.

This is my first, Ive got no idea of the timescales involved etc, but SIL says I can express for the night and Papa can look after LO. Which I think is fairly normal, isnt it? For a 4 month old?

Am I BU to expect to go out so soon?

For clarification, I mean west end show! And I'd be home by 11!

You'll both be fine. It's only one evening!

No. 4 months for an evening may well be fine. It will be harder if your LO doesn't take a bottle but then your DP/ other reliable babysitter will have to cuddle/ walk round with/ drive round the streets of London with a screaming baby while you're out for what - about 3 hours?

Of course you can go out when your baby's 4 months! You'll be glad t.o have. A baby free night.

Sorry - I thought your title meant show as in imminent labour, was very confused

I think it will be fine for you to go out for the evening when your baby is 4 months old

Hmmm... Maybe friend just doesnt want to go! Haha!

If you express and baby is taking a bottle it will be fine. I went on a weekend course when DS was 3 weeks old, home for lunch and back in the evening and DH gave DS his feed from bottles of expressed milk. We are both going to a show on Saturday, DS is now 2 months and GP are babysitting, again with expressed stuff.

I find the time to be an adult invaluable and sanity-saving, I was seriously getting baby blues before the weekend course and it really jolted me back into realising I am a person. Doesn't mean I don't miss DS like mad when I am away from him, but does make it lovely to get back to hold him, and smell him too, which seems to be the bit I miss most!

My DH and I both booked to go to a WE show when DS was going to be (just shy of) 4 months old. A good friend was going to baby-sit.

As the time drew near, I realised I couldn't leave him with someone other than one of us. [/pfb]

In the end, me and the friend went and DH stayed at home. He was in a good bedtime routine by that time, so I put him down and was home before he woke up for a night time feed (I was breastfeeding, not expressing, so it had to be me that did any feeds).

I loved having the evening out!! I say go for it.

I would imagine by 4 months you'll be chomping at the bit for a night out! I was.

I'd say that if you had tickets booked it would serve as an incentive to get yourself organised. The first few months can be something of a dressing-gown-and-slipper-clad blur otherwise. I went back to work FT when my baby was 12 weeks old..... a night out should be a piece of cake.

And it's not as though you would find it totally impossible to unload the tickets if there were some problem, is it?

Ha haaa, I thought you meant show as in bloody mucousy plug. They are unreasonable at any time

Ok so Ive just text and mentioned it to her again! If she comes up with another excuse then I'll know she doesnt want to go!

And if that excuse is that surely I wont want to leave my baby when Im breastfeeding and at such a young age, then I can refer her to you lot!

Well Ive had my reponse and the truth was she wanted to go with her husband. Fair dues, just wish she'd said that last month when I mentioned it, instead of making me feel terrible for leaving my suckling new born

Absolutely NBU, go for it. I left DD for the first time when she was almost exactly a month- had an evening out with my sister, and it did wonders for my sanity having a bit of adult time.