To not want to bother sending Anniversary cards to friends and family?

[Rollergirl1]

My MIL always reminds me to send cards to BIL's and SIL's for their wedding anniversaries. I do. But only because we receive cards from them, no doubt as they are reminded too. But I don't care about getting anniversary cards from other people. Surely it only matters that your DP remembers? I wouldn't expect to receive anniversary cards from all of my friends or. It's just yet more pressure to remember yet another date. Aren't birthdays and christmas enough? I may be a sourpuss but I just get totally vexed with all this card-sending.

YANBU. Ridiculous all this card-sending pressure. Their anniversary = their concern

I think its lovely, but only if the sender is sending them genuinely, don't do it grudgingly

I do it for 1st anniversaries for couples who's wedding I went to a year before

I like getting them too. I don't care if someone doesn't send me one.

I like sending and receiving letters/cards

I dont.

My family generally dont remember any cards at all, including birthday, christmas, anniversary. Its never been important to them and thats the way I like it.

DH's family do birthdays and christmas, though never anniversary.

I send anniversary cards to my parents/siblings and any friends whose wedding we have attended BUT I do it because I want to, I remember (thanks to my constant use of my diary!) and I think my friends think it's lovely. None of them send us one, doesn't bother me at all, I am a card sender, they're not. As long as nobody is being pressured into it I think it's fine.

So in your case YANBU, your MIL should leave you to decide who you send cards to (and your DH) and if she really MUST remind somebody it should be her son.

YANBU, I don't send them and wouldn't expect to get any.. apart from DH of course.

And agree that she should remind your DH not just you... I'd just stop. And the sooner the better.

But for party political reasons still get your DH to send his parents one.

I'm lucky if I get one from my DH! MIL always sends us 1 but I generally don't send them unless its a biggy. Fair enough I reckon. I don't expect them from anyone else (apart from DH ).

MIL reminds me I think cos she knows DH will tell her to do one. But she does think that the woman is the one to do all that kind of stuff.

I remember a couple of years ago I forgot to send a birthday card to one of my SIL's. All hell broke loose. But none of it was said directly to me. It all came via DH via his mother. Apparently BIL (DH's brother) was really upset that I'd forgotten to send his wife (my SIL) a card. DH was disinterested and bemused by it all. But I was a bit worried, if not a little freaked out. When I called SIL to say I was really sorry and I hoped she and BIL wasn't too pissed off with me, she was like "Be-ave lid, as if!" (They're scousers ).

So that's the other thing she does, not only does she enforce the sending of cards but she tells big fibs about people being mortally offended if you don't!

Funnily enough she doesn't text me to remind me of her own anniversary and I doubt if any of her boys remember so the poor woman probably gets zero cards for her own anniversary!