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To be frightened of this massively sexually inappropriate man from eon

68 replies

Paperdenim · 28/07/2010 14:06

The meter reader just came round and I'm really frightened and horrified by what he said - I was in kitchen washing up so could hear eveything he was saying to DP.. Went like this
'ooh I tell you what you'd love this job, sometimes you get 25 year olds in towels.. This bird the other day was reallllly impressive big boobs gesture and I saw eeeeverything she just slipped her towel phwoooar'

then..

'and one time I was checking a meter in a cupboard- this 25 year old blonde is stood right behind me and I could see riiiight up her skirt, pink knickers and everything- wish I had a hidden camera harharhar'

I'm just utterly utterly disgusted and worried, dp often works away for weeks at a time - there's no way I can let him in if I'm on my own.
Wanker.

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pagwatch · 28/07/2010 14:44

I didn't say it was his fault. I just think he was a bit pathetic.

I can get the open mouthed bit if he were on his own but as he suspected that it was within your hearing I would have thought he would be more angry than just .
Certainly I would like to think he is now finding the number to make a complaint and ensure your worries are dealt with by the company

5DollarShake · 28/07/2010 14:48

Bloody hell - I don't think her OH is the devil incarnate because he was too shocked to respond appropriately, and tell yer man what for!!

OP - are you going to call up and complain?

Katisha · 28/07/2010 14:49
textpest · 28/07/2010 14:53

Sounds like an inappropriate conversation to have in someone elses house but fairly standard for some men. I used to work in a VERY male dominated environment and this was par for the course unfortunately,

Complain if it made you that uncomfortable but rmember you don't have to let the metre reader in, you can just read the metre yourself and phone it in and as he was talking to your DP and he didn't say anything you might not have a leg to stand on complaint wise.

pagwatch · 28/07/2010 14:55

ahhh. A bit pathetic = devil incarnate.

I must remember that for next time DD won't ask for her own drink at the cafe..."Pag girl you are being a bit pathetic the devil incarnate"

Broderie · 28/07/2010 14:56

Ring the God hotline and ask for a braver husband

edam · 28/07/2010 14:58

She does have a leg to stand on. Her dh was to shocked to challenge the meter reader which is well within the normal human range of responses to something unexpected.

Meter reader was wrong to make suggestive remarks about his customers and should be disciplined. Hope OP complains.

shockers · 28/07/2010 15:00

I imagined DH in the same situation which is why I asked earlier if your DP had put him straight.

It would have gone along the lines of... " Come on buddy... that's not really on is it?" He always calls men "buddy" when he's having to 'step in'... never at any other time!

GetOrfMoiLand · 28/07/2010 15:02

Christ, I too work in a male dominated industry and I would NOT put up with shite like this. I would tell him to get the hell out my house.

Mind you I am not so brave - a copper called me a dumb blonde on Monday and I said nowt.

Whata fuckwit (me and the cop and the eon man)

Original poster
Paperdenim · 28/07/2010 15:02

Christ i've always thought you lot can't be as bad on aibu as other topics say but it really is true!

My DP is not somepathetc little weed he's a 6ft5 rugby player and I'm quite glad him being shocked fed this man enough rope to hang himself with.

I'm on hold to the complaints department now

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shockers · 28/07/2010 15:04

Good.

Broderie · 28/07/2010 15:04

I find people on the God hotline are usually more sympathetic

GetOrfMoiLand · 28/07/2010 15:04

Yes complain to Eon - they subcontract their meter reading to any old randomer, they are not actually Eon employee, but that's not the point. They need to know.

rubbersoul · 28/07/2010 15:05

So the husband's been pathetic and not brave enough

I don't think so... his wife wasn't in the room, he was clearly shocked and it was one of those awkward situations where you're not quite sure what to say, surely..?

Typical husband bashing, I think.

grapeandlemon · 28/07/2010 15:07

It's not her Dh fault ffs. Op sometimes you can be frozen when somone says something shocking, it is not always possible to react exactly as you think you would or should for that matter. Good luck with the complaint.

OrmRenewed · 28/07/2010 15:30

Not quite sure why her DH is in trouble for not complaining at the time The OP herself didn't so why would he be expected to? Do we still need men to stand up for us?

Chil1234 · 28/07/2010 15:34

The OP's husband was probably speechless, wondering if he hadn't been accidentally teleported into an episode of On The Buses....

sheepgomeep · 28/07/2010 15:40

I had a horrible one from scottish power about 6 years ago, He was only early 20's, real smarmy git, kept telling me about his sex life, he offered me cocaine and wouldn't leave my kids alone,he then told me he slashed the tyres of the last person who complained about him!! I was single then with just 2 kids but he did scare me, he was horrible...

coraltoes · 28/07/2010 15:42

uh why are you all saying her husband should have said something?! why is it his place anymore than his wife's?! Also sometimes something stuns us into silence, we're not all gobshites

seriously though, i wouldn't have called to complain. I'd have kicked him out of my house and told him why, dirty little scrote.

Loie159 · 28/07/2010 15:43

No one can tell you what you think is upsetting / frightening.... What really botehrs one person someone else will think of as harmless banter so if your frightened then your frightened. I would complain if you feel able to and if not then as suggested just dont let him in again - aslo explain to your husband why things like that bother you so if something like this bizzarley happens again he will know that he needs to come down hard to stop you feeling frightened. And btw if you want your husnabd to stand up for you that FINE, equally some people like to vocalise their own feelings themselves.... not sure why when someone is asking for help others on this site just want to criticise.... very strange and quite offputting. Lets hope those who are so able to criticise never need to ask for support themselves

slug · 28/07/2010 15:58

My DH would have reacted in exactly the same way. I ove him dearly, but he just doesn't do confrontation.

Broderie · 28/07/2010 16:35

I was only joking about the God hotline, I am not sure one exists. If it does it might be manned by Graham Norton and might not be a great idea afterall iykwim

pagwatch · 28/07/2010 17:57

Ummmm , I am enjoying all the outrage at the suggestion that DP should stand up for the little woman...

The reason it was his place to speak up was because ..err.. he was the one talking to meter perv and OP was not in the room. If I had been talking to him it would have been my job and I would have considered meself a bit pathetic if I had done the mumbling agreeing thing. Which is possible - but I hope I would think 'you sad pathetic creature' if I did.

But ROFL at husband bashing. Well known for husband bashing, me

AlaskaNebraska · 28/07/2010 18:04

god i think youve over reacted
it wasnt TO you was it?

Gay40 · 28/07/2010 18:09

Sometimes even I get stunned into silence by someone's comments. And my mrs who is well known for being a gobshite trappy standing up for herself has also been shocked into dumbness by some people.
So I'm guessing the OP's OH was the same.
Complain, and keep complaining.