to think about asking mom who has just been diagnosed with c-difficile not to come to wedding?

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So, DP and I are getting married next month. Low key. Very low key.

DS (2) has had all sorts problems with his health, but finally has been diagnosed as being dairy/soya allergic. He has been thriving since then.

My mom sent an email a few days ago saying that she had been diagnosed with c difficile, and the anti biotics weren't working, so would be put on stronger ones.

Am obviously concerned about her health, but am wondering whether it would be a better idea for her to postpone trip as it's quite contagious.

She lives in California so would need to cancel plans now.

Would it be OK for her to fly anyway? Wouldn't everyone on the plane get it? disclaimer I don't know anything about c difficile or how contagious it is...

I'm sure it's very contagious, so YANBU. Surely she shouldn't be able to fly?

Don't really know much about it.

She should ask her doctor's advice. If she is well enough to fly, there shouldn't be any problem. Hopefully the new antibiotics will work.

i would rather postpone my wedding than have my mother miss it for health reasons.

especially as you say it is a low key event.

If your sons health issues are caused by a now discovered allergy/intollerance then your mothers health should have no impact there

Hello,

C. difficile shouldnt cause any problems in a healthy person, and really as long as good hygiene practices are followed, you wouldnt be at much of a risk of catching it. It can be present in our guts without causing any problems, it is only when you are taking antibiotics (for some people anyway) that it can cause diarrohea and fever. Check out the following website for the facts and perhaps give NHS direct a call to ask any specific questions.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/Clostridium-difficile/Pages/Introduction.aspx

Perhaps you should ask your mum to speak to her doctor regarding whether or not he would recommend her travelling, and having contact with her grandson and family. That way, you know for sure what the medical opinion is.

If the wedding is a while away, the chances are the new antibiotics would have cleared it all up anyway.

Please dont make a decision based on what you've read on mumsnet - get a proper medical opinion. Your wedding is a special occassion and having your mum there will make it more so, if she is able to be.

K.

Once the diarrhoea has settled, she will not be infectious. Your son's allergies will have no bearing on any risk.

It will all be fine by next month.

Thanks for the advice . When DS was in hospital, his gastro consultant said that his digestive tract was quite fragile and didn't want him staying as an in patient longer than necessary due to MRSA/super bugs. Typical advice, but I am scared of super bugs. Maybe that's not logical, but have a fear of them.

Will speak to my mom this evening and see what her doctor thinks. She is hoping the new anti biotics will work, but suppose we need to discuss the options.

Yes it isn't really contagious, it's caused by an imbalance of bacteria in HER gut.

I have had it, and got it from antibiotics and didn't catch it from/pass it on to anyone.

Well worth asking doctor though.

I think it would be very sad for a mother to miss a daughter's wedding. Just imagine how you would feel about missing your son's wedding.

Is there any way you can postpone your wedding.

For your peace of mind you need to seek a proper medical opinon.

i think the only acceptable reasons for a mother to miss her daughters wedding are, either because she's dead, or in jail.

It is only contagious if she poos her self and the spores get everywhere...or doesn't wash her hands after an episode like that.

Most people have the spores in our bodies anyway. But if you are healthy they will cause you no problems.

People who have run down immune systems/major illnesses are more susceptable to becoming systematic with it. Also, if you are on antibiotics they will kill all the good bacteria in your gut allowing those spores you have to get out of control.

Hospitals often get sued because patients get c-diff but there is really nothing the hospitals can do about it. Same with MRSA-most people are carriers already.

not systemic I meant SYMPTOMATIC.

Sorry about your Mum & the complication it's going to cause re your wedding...

However, I agree with KarinG - totally. This is not a MN AIBU decision but a medical one. Having just read a little on it (I had no idea what it was) I would think it unwise for her to travel/be there - but I'm no medic and that is who you need to be asking.

Pleased to hear DS2 is sorted now

If she is in the acute phases of a c diff infection she probably wouldn't be up to traveling anyway. It is constant watery diarrohea that is so bad that a patient rarely makes it to the loo in time.

C-difficule isnt a 'super' bug . In a month your mother should be fine and have recovered and therefore no threat to anyone . Ive seen 98 yr old ladies recover from it in less than a week . The problem in hospitals is that you have a high number of people on iv antibiotics which kill off the good bacteria in peoples gut ,so allow the small amount of c-dif which lives harmlessly there to multiple and cause symptoms . I know people have died from it ,i cant remember which hospital it was in the south ,but im thinking that 99% of those deaths would have been preventable even with c-diff infection . Good old fashioned hand hygeine is the key .

Didn't know that C difficile isn't a super bug.

Spoke to mom about concerns and she said that she would ensure that she was tested negative at least 3 times before she came over and would discuss it with her doctor. I am more than happy with this, and of course she doesn't want to put the kids at risk either.

Thanks for all the advice.