to expect my dd to be more supervised at pre-school?

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Dd is almost 3 and has been having regular visits to the preschool from her nursery.

She is a rather high maintenance child and tells me she doesn't like pre-school. She dislikes most new things, so I listen, nod, reassure and ignore.

Last week she came home from preschool in pull-ups because she wet her pants, and her spare set of pants whilst taking herself to the toilet. Nursery staff say she just stood and wet herself, dd said she didnt pull down her trousers enough and thus weed on her pants whilst on the toilet. Twice. She was appalled to be in pullups (and has not had an accident since she was toilet trained 7 months ago).

Today she came home covered and I mean covered in felt pen. Both hands were purple, one arm was mottled purple and pink, her leg (under her trousers) was stripy blue with stars. Her trousers socks and canvas shoes were also coloured in. Her face was covered, even on her eyelids, as was her hair.

Nursery offered a bland apology but no explanation. Dd says the nursery nurser was sitting looking at her whilst she did it but not saying anything. She wouldn't let her draw on her tummy apparently

DH thinks its just something kids do, and I should relax more. To a certain extent I agree, dd is a meance . But I can't help but feel this was a work of art going on, which obviously went on for longer than just a minute or two.

Would you be irritated by this, or am I overreacting?

In fact, more than just draw on her arms, dd(13) seems to think it's hilarious to draw cats whiskers on her face in indelible pen. Usually the night before some kind of family gathering

im very suprised that the nursery doesnt use washable felt tips

even more so if the staff were watching dd draw on herslef and clothes

regards pull ups,it is demeaning to a child to a child who is pt to wear them,esp at nursery with their peers - 3/4yrs can be very cruel at times

yes parens do steal not bring back pants - maybe nursery need to go to tesco/asda and get cheap knickers for for £2 etc

and make sure you leave a few spare pairs as well on her peg

DD (and her 3 friends) dared each other to paint themselves. DD had covered her face and most of the arm of her jumper before the staff noticed.

Actually, if DD comes back clean I wonder what on earth has happened that day.

I would be annoyed at pullups - copious stocks of spares here- though DD once came home in boys' pants (nursery apologised profusely and sent out an appeal for more "girls' pants).

As a pre school teacher, I would happily watch a child draw on their arms or hands, but eyelids?? That raises a safety issue for me, and I would definately have to say something about it to the staff. In theory, she could have done some serious damage to her eyes!

With the clothes, no, they should not have let her draw on them. Children are supposed to be taught to have respect for their belongings, not to be taught it is ok to ruin something just because it's entertaining for a few minutes!

As for the pants thing, parents should send their child in with spares, and more than one spare when it comes to pants. We would go to our box and put clean pants on a child who had none, but we do ask that more than one set of spares be sent in. So if after that a parent didn't send in enough spares and their child ended up going home in pull ups, then they complained about it, I would be pretty miffed tbh. But the nursey should make it clear to you that they need you to send in lots of spares. It's not unreasonable for a child to have a small accident, and end up wet again because they have been playing with water, spilt their drink etc.

A child who spends 10 mins drawing on them self is not a bored child, it's a child who is engaged with a self chosen activity and is learning.

Or at least I think thats an edu waffle description for it.

she should NOT have been allowed to draw on her clothes and shoes. It's not accpetable behavior and she should have been stopped.
I would be unfased by the pull up bu6t would make sure you put more spares in her bag next time.

nearly three - maybe - but really, still only two and not old enough to be trusted to make a judgement call on whether or not it's acceptable to draw with felt pen on your clothes and shoes.

keep those shoes as her nursery shoes, get some blacking or something on them so they don't look so scruffy, and have strong words tomorrow about the safety aspect of a two year old drawing on her own eyelids unchecked.

colditz, they are my thoughts exactly, The hoses unfortunately are pink skechers, and so can't e blacked, but yes we'll keep them for spares (she's almost out of them anyway).

I will send more spare pants in future, I was amazed she even needed one set, let alone more, like I said she really never wets herself, even when ill. But yes, totally my fault for not having enough pants.

I think most of the problem is bored, inexperienced staff who have probably had enough of looking after kids towards the end of the day. How we address that though is beyond me...