thanks but no thanks

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its my birthday this week & I was told by a friend that I am a nightmare to buy for & I need to start collecting things.
I fell very upset by these comments. Even though I have told her not to bother. she will only hold it against me that she brought me a pressent.

I want to tell her to keep her pressent.

tell her you are collecting Faberge eggs. or Crowns.

tell her you collect thoughtful gifts

Ask her to make a donation to your favorite charity

thanks- love the comments
that has cheered me up. x

Tell her you collect bottles of wine and boxes of chocolates

I think she probably meant it in a lighthearted way. I'm sure she doesn't really expect you to start collecting something for her benefit!

I think what she meant was that she really wants to buy something you would like, and is finding it difficult to find you just the right present.

YY to Eccentrica's idea

Or you could collect spa days, or Mulberry handbags.

Actually that is a bloody horrible thing to say. It is really easy to find nice things to buy for girlfriends, Burt's Bees skin stuff, Neal's Yard (apologies for random sprinkling of apostrophes), spa vouchers, a really lovely bottle of wine. There are loads and loads of things even if there is nothing specifically personal that you want to get for someone.

www.pandora.net/Welcome What about something from here, she can add to it as christmas/birthday presents.

Why did she say you are a nightmare to buy for?

that she doesn't know what you like? She should, if she's your friend!

Or that you don't seem to like whatever she has got you in the past?

Can't decide if YABU or not without knowing what makes you a 'nightmare to buy for'

at Faberge eggs and crowns.

Hope you've had some good ideas from this thread OP.

I collect money. Always happy to see a new fresh note to add to my collection.

Or on a more personal note, a cheque personally signed by the giver would always be welcome.

I'm a nightmare to buy for, even my husband struggles. It's not that he doesn't know what I like, it's that I'm just not that interested in stuff. I say that if he wants to get me something that I like, that to pay for us to do something nice together will be appreciated far more than something that will just take up room.

I agree. I mostly prefer to have a nice day out/meal/treat than have some unknown thing bought for me to open. The exception is from kids of course, they seem to take so much more from unwrapping a surprise or watching you do it.

YABU and oversensitive.

My step grandad is a nightmare to buy for. I tell him that. It just means that when he has a hobby or something, he will go and buy everything anyway so there isn't anything to buy come birthdays and xmas. My dad is a nightmare to buy for as he doesn't have any hobbies so trying to think of something for him is difficult.

I collect signed first editions, or wine.