to be upset that my boyfriend isn't invited?

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I've been with my boyfriend nearly two years. I have been invited to a dinner party organised by a girl who is rather more my friend than BF's, but who also knows BF very well. This girl, let's call her G, has a bit of a problem with couples. And she has specifically not invited BF. But she has invited all our mutual friends.

I'm hurt. I don't want to be one of those couples who can't do anything apart, but it seems rather unkind to exclude one half of a couple when both halves of the couple are part of a group of friends. AIBU?

NB despite the name, I'm female. So it's not that she's prejudiced against gay people or anything like that.

Are the other guests couples?

And if not do they have dps and are the dps invited?

are all the other guests female?

No, it's a mixed bag - boys and girls. Other couples are invited.

Sorry, what does dps mean?

I would only be irritated if there were other couples invited. If it was just a close friends thing, I wouldn't care.

We were all friends then we got together.

I would be irritated if other couples were invited tbh. So she doesn't have a problem with couples in general, just you and your bf..........

I think she is being rude if she is inviting other couples and if your dp is part of this particular group of friends. I would feel disloyal to my dp if I went in these circumstances. Would be different if you were talking about a girls night out.

If all the guests are female then she obviously wants a 'girls night' eurghh hate that - but each to their own and it would be weird if your boyfriend went.

If there are other men there then I find it odd that you have been invited without your partner.

if my DP got invited to a mixed dinner event and I didnt i'd be suspicious of the motives of the host...

Karmabeliever, my thoughts exactly. I wouldn't have a problem if it was a girls night, or if it was just a handful of people. It's a big dinner, about 20 people. My feeling is sure, it's her party, but it's rude to exclude someone who's clearly a permanent fixture in someone's life, even if you don't happen to like them hugely. My sister has a friend who married a man nobody can stand, but she still invites him.

Sounds strange. Are you going to go?

I was wondering whether to ask her if BF is invited in case she just forgot to say specifically. If he's not invited then I'm going to have to say no. I would feel disloyal, and frankly too p*ed off to enjoy myself.

That will cause an almighty row, but so be it.