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to sell wedding presents on E-bay?

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Chooks · 26/07/2010 19:33

Feel so bad about this. We were given alot of frames, pictures and even a couple of clocks that just aren't 'us'. Strapped for cash, and they're all just stashed away. Would it be realy awful to sell them?

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thumbwitch · 27/07/2010 14:40
  • agree with you, SloanyPony! Every wedding I've ever been to has had a gift list, without exception - family and friends from all walks of life - I've never seen it as a problem til I came onto MN! (and still don't)
SloanyPony · 27/07/2010 14:45

By the way, I had a gift list too (shoot me). Everything was tickety-boo apart from the fact that the in-laws obviously hate them and studiously decided to ignore the said list. Fine, their choice, not expecting anything.

"What do you want for a wedding present". Oh, um, that's very kind of you. How about something off the list? "We dont like lists. There must be something you need". Yes, um, thank you, that's very kind. To be honest, its all on the list. "Well then we'll have to think of something OURSELVES!" . Oh, well, that's very kind but you needn't feel you have to buy us anything - we are just glad you will be there on the day, etc etc.

I wont say what it was but its in the loft. It doesn't get used.

Porcelain · 27/07/2010 14:54

I would ebay, they gave it to you, it's yours, you do what you would like best.

We don't have a gift list for our wedding, we already have a house that is full to bursting with everything we need, we are categorically asking for no more stuff, as we have been having a massive clearout. We were going to set up a honeymoon list (where people pay for specific bits of the holiday) but with DS due 10 weeks before the wedding, we are putting the honeymoon on hold. We are asking any guests that wish to, to contribute cash or vouchers which we can put towards decorating the house or having a late honeymoon next year. We will probably do a "wishing well" postbox, so people can put envelopes in if they choose.

diddl · 27/07/2010 15:00

"SloanyPony Tue 27-Jul-10 14:45:42
By the way, I had a gift list too (shoot me). Everything was tickety-boo apart from the fact that the in-laws obviously hate them and studiously decided to ignore the said list."

ILs never bought us anything either.

BakewellTarts · 27/07/2010 15:01

I also sell or regift or charity shop presents that I or the family don't like, need or want.

Life's too short and my house too small.

BTW we had a gift list for our wedding its not a crime is it? Emphasised that noone should feel obligated to buy anything and made sure that there were enough token / cheaper items on it.

Poledra · 27/07/2010 15:03

I heart thumbwitch! I find myself agreeing with you more and more recently - I think I might become your scary stalker

thumbwitch · 27/07/2010 15:04

It's only a crime on MN - and is only beaten in apparent crassness by asking for money/vouchers (which we did because, like Porcelain, we already had Far Too Much Stuff and we were due to emigrate fairly soon after). Several of my friends have asked for money too - never bothered me.

thumbwitch · 27/07/2010 15:07

Ooooo - a scary stalker? What fun, Poledra!

I should have said in my last post that my friends suggested money as an option if we felt like giving them anything.

I have only been to one wedding where the list was utterly a tad preposterous - one crystal glass exceeded my budget! I did go off-list for that one and did them a caricature of themselves and their 5 bridesmaids - which they were very appreciative of!

BakewellTarts · 27/07/2010 15:09

I think asking for money is also very sensible if thats what you want. I'd like to give something if I go to a wedding and would rather my gift is appreciated...noone wants 20 tin openers do they?

OhCobblers · 27/07/2010 15:12

i agree with both of Thumbwitch's posts!!
never saw them as a problem until i discovered MN and still don't think they are a problem.

what is a problem is if a gift list only has really expensive items on it. one or two people i know did that and i found myself getting really cross with them as its just plain greedy to want or need a £60 wine glass x 8

RenfrewMum · 27/07/2010 15:32

I am seeing some awful 1970s sitcom scenario here, where your in-laws turn up with a hideous clock, having seen it on eBay and bought it for you to go with the one they got you as a wedding present ...

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Chooks · 27/07/2010 16:22

RenfewMum

I could never have done a gift list. I would have just felt cheeky. We had a very small casual wedding, it wouldn't have felt right. Also alot of people had to travel quite a distance and stay in a hotel for the night, and that on top of the cost of outfits/time off work meant we were grateful to just have them there (I say that sincerely). We really didn't expect anything from anyone. My parents and IL's split the cost of the wedding and honeymoon and that was they're present.

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