To get cross with my DP

[4boysthatilove]

AIBU to feel annoyed that DP puts his mum first and also that he seems to think its ok for our 3 year old to be defiant, openly refuse to follow simple instructions and be downright naughty - ie, pushing 18 month old brother into the door having already been told not to? I seem to be the one doing all the disciplining and then left to sort everything out while DP helps his mum. OK I don't want to sound mean, but there are 2 other strapping brothers and a sister who can help their mum out, why does it have to be my DP who works 6 full days a week??? Sorry but feel very annoyed, yet another weekend ruined as half of our only family day, Sunday, DP is at his mums while I try and sort out house, children, his paperwork for his business, cook dinner, clean out animals, visit the dump etc, and he wonders why I get cross???

What's wrong with his mum?

She's on her own, big garden she can't manage etc, she's 78

Your DH sounds lovely.

I think that you need to think of practical things that you can do so that your DH doesn't have to spend his only day off helping his Mum, like her moving into a smaller flat possibly in a retirement village.
Also does he have to work 6 days a week?
Is cleaning out the animals really spending quality time together, I know that these jobs have to be done but can't they be done in the week.
Does he know it annoys you and why?

Three issues here, really, aren't there:

1. Your child's bad behaviour and your dh's lack of support. He needs to back you up, otherwise your lo will play you against each other.

1. Your spending your weekends doing paperwork, cleaning out the animals, visiting the dump - unless you work full time, that stuff should be getting sorted out during the week if possible

1. His mum's dependence on your dh. I think you need to contact his siblings and ask them to take an equal role, say each of them goes to help her out for half a day, once a month. That way she'll have help every week. Alternatively, could you all go over maybe once a fortnight so you can give your dh a hand with the garden while she minds the children?