to think that DH would have been a crap SAHD?

[OrmRenewed]

He's a teacher so in on leave now. I'm working from home - I might not be again! He seems to think that you can look after DC remotely from a seat in front of the TV

I am getting so irritated. I will be safely back in the office tomorrow

Your DC are quite old though aren't they? Not toddlers? I find I can look after mine pretty well from a seat in front of the computer...

Well it depends on what you want them to do. Shouting orders from a distance isn't on IMO.

argh, I feel your frustration! I have bronchitis so DH took the day off "to look after the kids", and then read his book all day and was cross with the kids because they were "being so naughty" and interrupting him. I home ed DD to, but of course he did none of that...Grrrrrrr.

Yep, mine's the same. I was gathering up dirty laundry the other day and asked DH to go and get 2-yo DD3 from the garden as it was bedtime. Cue DH yelling from the kitchen (standing next to me ) 'DD3, get in here, it's bedtime.' Wrong on 2 counts.

1. If I'd just wanted to shout to her, I could have done it myself

1. What 2-yo on this planet wants to come in to go to bed when her sisters are still out playing? She requires Forcible Removal, not just a shout from indoors.

Arse (DH, not DD3).

I must admit it's mostly the 7yr old that needs 'steering'. The other 2 are just being arsey over-tired teenagers and pre-teens. But in either case yelling doesn't seem to cur the mustard.

Mine would have been ACE.
This morning he was up making sure playscheme badges were laminated, digging their wellies out becausr the field might be muddy and he knows the kids don't like trashing their fav trainers.

He gets on and does what ever needs doing. Shopping/ Ironing / seperating clothes washses, hang on line etc/whateverneed doing.

Makes sure the boys don't go out looking like tramps because they 'forget' to brush their hair or they think a crumpled up shirt is ok because 'no one is going to see it anyway!!'

He does the school lunch in the morning and gets the boys up and sorts school stuff before he goes to work and I'll take over in the evening because he works late.

Everything he does is about 'the family'
He is soft with the boys and buys them lots of good stuff but won't tolerate them being cheeky, bad manners, bad attitiudes and if one of them speaks badly to me it feels like a war has broken out.

We've been together over 20 years and been through a lot of bad stuff but he has never changed.

His dad was the same although I never met him

upahill, your dh sounds fab.

Mine has very good intentions but sometimes doesn't quite meet my expectations when looking after dd.

However, from September he is going to be a SAHD so I am going to have to trust him to make mistakes and learn from them.

I wouldn't mind mistakes. I make mistakes. I just object to the feeling that he thinks he can sit on his arse and do nothing!

Actually its' a wider issue - recently he has been so lazy. We had a row about it last night and he admits he has been - intending to address it apparently. We'll see.

He has taken them out now. Thank goodness.

Yes, that's galling, isn't it? You think - "if you think it's just a matter of watching TV and shouting, does that mean you think that's what I've been doing all these years?"

In your shoes, Orm, I'd try and work from somewhere else - library, rental place, etc., just so you're not so irritated and he's on his own.

Mine is also a good egg, like upahill's.

We both work part time and look after our 21 month old daughter. He is wonderful. He slings her everywhere, takes her to playgroup in the morning, naps her in the sling (usually meaning he has to trudge at a slow pace while singing to her) and takes her to the zoo/museum/park/aquarium in the afternoon. Reading, playing, all that sort of stuff.

He genuinely feels priviledged to have the chance to take a bit of a back step from his TV career and look after our daughter and is consequently incredibly close to her.

The only thing he doesn't do is breastfeed her.

Mind you, if you'd have spoken to him a couple of months before she was born he'd have told you he wouldn't change a nappy, and that's why he was hiring a nanny.

Uphill im going to hunt you down and kidnap your DH

i thought my dh would bit crap but actually now weve swapped hes much better than ive ever been!
hes boyond bored though

I will only keep him for a weekend though ,promise

Bumpsoon He is in Tesco right now getting the boys lunch for the playscheme. He's not getting me and Green and Blacks chocolate tonight though (sad) (details on other thread about me putting weight on!!!!!)

Upahill , Can i have your dh after bumpsoon?

I found him first!!!!

Sad but true..... when we met he didn't fit into the drop dead gorgeous overly good looking skinny types my mates were seeing and they poked fun at me. I told them too piss off because straight away I knew there was something special there.

I wrote about one of the friends on the wedding disaster thread. She has been divorced twice. Over last through years I have lost touch.
The other friend is very close and she really appreciates the way has helped out in so many ways over the last 20 years and often says about how good he is. Even his manners about when we drop her off he always makes sure she goes through the door and the living room light comes on to make sure she is safely in (my dad always does that with my mums friends when they get droped off) I thought it was normal my friends say it makes them feel important!!

I too have a good un although I have been hard to please during last few weeks as pg. he still to this day says thanks for His evening meal and when we were first together and had separate holidays booked he sent me flowers when on his and flew out to ibIza when I was on mine.on our first Valentines day he bought me and my dd flowers. I cook but he pretty much does everything else. I still moan tho!