Or is DH's mate just plain rude?

[sparklingchampagne]

Arrrgh!
DH's mate has come to stay with us for the weekend, arrived on Thursday and is quite literally making himself at home
He unplugged Dh's laptop and my phone so he could charge his phone and use his laptop as soon as he got here, and has spent every evening on facebook.
Everywhere we go he takes his mobile and Blackberry with him, and is constantly texting and phoning other people - even went we went on a walk!

He also tries to start arguments all the time like making comments to DH about his political views (DH hasn't risen to any of these) and constantly referring to DH's ex wife as DH's wife (very odd as they've been divorced for 7 years!) He has to coment on everything DH and I do - the walk we went on was too boring, we get up too late etc etc

And now, he is angling for an invite on holiday with us!!!
I mentioned that my Mum and Dad are going and he aske dhow big the cottage was. Later he said to DH - I'll be not far from where you are, so I'll come up for a couple of days too.
DH has put his foot down and said there's not room.

He's going tomorrow (thank God) but I am still fuming that he behaves like this and then threatens to turn up on holiday - I've hidden the holiday letters so he can't find out where we are!! [grin}

Rant over!

YANBU he sounds very rude and not someone to be encouraged.

How bloody rude.
But the pessimist in me thinks that you're not out of the woods yet on the holiday front. I'd keep a beady eye on that one, if I were you.

I agree Clam - he has a track record too, five years ago, when DD was tiny, we (DH, me, DSD and DD) went on our first family holiday together.
DH's mate said he would 'pop over' as he was in the area. He arrived the day we did, booked himself and his son into the Youth Hostel, and spent every day with us - from 8am until 10pm - it was awful!
So, DH and I have agreed no way.
I hope I have hidden the holiday stuff safely enough - we're being very vague about where we're going!

Why is your husband friends with him at all?

Perhaps your husband should visit him in future?

"Fish and visitors stink after three days"... B Franklin.

He sounds awful. I think you might have to be really blunt. Say 'No' firmly but politely - it's a family holiday and he's not family.

For every kindly Ned Flanders there is a Homer Simpson. Some lonely type they feel a little bit sorry for, perhaps? The only way you're going to lose this one is by moving house or faking your own deaths. Good luck!!!

He probably has no idea how much he is annoying you.

Maybe your unwittingly on one of those shows where someone has to be as annoying as humanly possible for a week without getting thrown out, to win money.

Have you noticed any BBC cameramen in your house?

Thanks for cheering me up! Am looking for cameramen as we speak!
Have just been out for an hour just me and DD so am feeling a little better - roll on tomorrow. . .

With friends like that, who needs enemies and all that. He sounds a terrible bore.

So the weekend is over... when IS he leaving?

ASK HIM. NOW!

He is going tomorrow morning.
I have said nothing about the ex wife thing as I think he is trying to get a rise out of me. DH has gently corrected him several times!
He has refused my (home made) crumble because 'he doesn't eat fattening food' and is now stuffing his face with nachos and dips.
Git!!

I'd do the Marge Simpson line "just to let you know, Mo, that I'm far too tired to pretend to like you."

God poor you. Get a G&T and ignore him until he goes.

if he is such a dick, and he has been a dick on previous visits, why is he staying with you again?

He tends to phone up and invite himself, and DH is a very nice man, and can't say no!
We have moved about 350 miles from where we used to live so luckily these visits are only 2-3 times a year rather than every week like they used to be!
I can grin and bear it (just about!) as he is a friend of DH's - some of my friends are a little trying for DH I guess.
He is now espousing his views on rearing children - ie women should stay at home and not work - this from a man who didn't take any part in his son's upbringing from the age of 4-14.

You'll have to be the bad guy then. If DH is too nice (and what a lovely problem to have ) then he needs to blame you.

You know, "sorry, but sparkling really wants just a family break this year..."

Friend: "yeah but no but I'll just come for half of it then...."

DH: "No, you don't understand, but sparkling may well turn into an axe murderer if she doesn't get her way. There's nothing I can do, mate"

just keep repeating the mn mantra...

You, , for example, are a TWAT!

Make sure you print off some fake holiday details that send him off to a completely different end of the country... Hide them but not very well so he thinks he has found the real things.

Then if he finds them and does try to muscle in on your holiday you won't be there.

There again, you have said that he's said he's not going to be far from you - is it too late for you to change your venue or date? Is it somewhere that he lives anyway or has he deliberately booked online when found out dates/place coinicidently booked a holiday nearby at the same time?

And look on the bright side - at least he unplugged your dh's laptop and didn't go trawling through it for info on your holiday (unless he has done this after you've gone to bed...)

OMG, he sounds vile! And you and your dh are being waaay too nice!

Hooray - he's gone!
At least having him to stay for a few days reminds me how utterly lovely, kind and fabulous my DH is!
Nothing more mentioned about the holiday as yet. . .

Kindly tell DH how much you adore him... but if he EVER allows that arse in through the door again, he, and his mate will be sleeping outside... and you'll put him on a sex ban for a month....