to think everybody else has a better social network than me?

[darknessfalls]

I think I maybe feeling a bit hormonal but unsure. Been feeling down about this for the last few months but I don't feel like I have a girlie/ social network...its really hard when I see old schoolfriends and work colleagues on Facebook talking about their big nights out, I would love that...

I should be grateful as I have a beautiful baby and gorgeous toddler but feel like I am just a mum nowadays nothing more. I find it so hard to admit in RL that I am just lonely.

Does anyone else feel this way or AIBU?

I think that things like fb and Twitter only serves to make us all feel inadequate. Particularly if, like me, you don't have a natural 'way' with people. It just makes me feel even more nervous to approach others cause they look to be having so mch fun.

Oh definitely darkness I think we are scared that if we tell the truth others will think usbadmums or something. So we hide behind a happy-face and end up not getting the one thing we really need and thus further isolating ourselves

Thanks Pisces, I will probably suggest a night out with nct group next time we meet up. I hope I didn't sound off with my 'desperate' comment, what I meant was as they all live near each other I feel a bit left out and feel like I'm intruding on their local cosy babygroup.

There is other stuff with my mother I won't go into on here but I will ask in laws to stay over so DH and I can have a 'date night'.

It is really reassuring me to hear all your thoughts and suggestions.

Thank you guys from a MNer who is going to try and kickstart her social life and not be bothered by FB status updates and photos of others!

I feel like you, too. I spoke to a friend about it just the other day as she seems to have loads of friends and be a really important person to loads of people whereas I feel I have very few friends and am peripheral to some groups I am part of. She said she works really hard at friendships - texting,arranging, remembering birthdays and kids birthdays even when it's not reciprocal, etc etc. It made me tired just listening to it!

I get depressed and feel lonely at times and have quite a bit of social anxiety (hmmm - wonder why I don't have many friends ). It will sound really corny but I do count my blessings every day, sometimes several times a day and it helps put things into a bit of perspective.

I must admit I take refuge in my family and think at least we all have each other.

I don't do facebook, very bad for mental health IMO. I can't remember where I heard it but heard that a group of girls complained they had had a shit night out but it didn't matter cos at least they had some decent pics for FB. Things aren't always what they seem.

When I go on the rare girls night out I usually end up paranoid that I've upset someone or made a tit of myself or the 3 day hangover just wasn't worth it.

As usual there's very little advice in here from me - but, as you've already discovered, we may be lonely, but we're definitely not alone in that.

Pisces and Mummyberry so agree with your posts. I find I can listen to friends and families problems and can help and support them but never have guts in RL to talk about my loneliness issues.It feels like I am a child again asking to be friends and join their gang?! Going to overcome this as talking on here has helped me feel I am not alone in feeling this way.

Thanks Mydoor, that's interesting what you heard about those girls I must remember that on FB all is not what it seems. As you said we have to keep remembering that we have a lot to be grateful for and to count our blessings. Best wishes x

YANBU darkness, FB is so false it's so not worth getting worked up about.

FWIW, I find weekly date nights with hubby do wonders for my sanity