wedding one

[mumof2children]

i can't invite everyone to the wedding, i am getting married in a hotel with the max of guest are 60.

so going to invite people who close to us now, and no uncle dick who i haven't seen since i was a little girl (that an example i don't have an uncle dick)

but what do i say to people when asked why they wasn't invited

That you can only accomodate 60 people?

There were only about 25 members of immediate family at my wedding and no kids. Everyone else can like it or lump it, its your wedding

Will Uncle Dick really be that bothered? My wedding will be for no more than 50 guests, including children. I have gone out of my way to find a smaller venue so that if any random aunts/uncles feel left out it is easy to explain that it is an accomodation issue, rather than the fact that I don't really like them!

You don't have space. We were in the same predicament and I used space and budget as the argument.

Are you having an evening party that you could invite more people to?

Tell the truth.

There is limited room, tell them that, if they even ask. We had a similar problem so we couldn't invite random partners that I didn't know (and I am referring to my cousin (17) who had an on off boyfriend that she regularly cheated on). There was a massive family falling out and things have never been the same since, 7 years ago. All down to her lying about it too.

I have learnt then to please myself and not give a toss what others are trying to dictate. Invite who you want there to share your special day and tough to anyone else.

they wont ask i wouldnt have thought, people can figure these things out for themselves. it'll more likely be parents or grandparents who wonder why you havent invited the furthest members, and you can tell them the truth. we didnt invite people we hadnt seen or heard from in 5 years.

i never buy the not enough room reason though, i wrote my guest list, then found the venue to suit. anyone not invited due to room obviously wasnt a guest anyone cared about in the first place. but like i say, theres nothin wrong with just not wanting to invite people. your day, do what you like within reason

"Because I don't like you as much as I like them"

Are you paying for it yourselves? I found that paying for my own wedding made me much less worried about Uncle Dick and all of my mothers long lost cousins.

mumof2 - it?s a perfectly good reason. I?ve been invited to 4 family wedding receptions this year but none of the weddings. I?m fine about it!
thursday - we had set our hearts on a particular venue, which could only accommodate 30 people, so definitely for us it was a space issue. We just explained to people that it was only very close family/friends due to seating space at the ceremony, and then had a massive knees up at night, which 250 people came to. Worked perfectly for us, and no one moaned about it. There were no kids at the wedding, but lots came at night, and all my friends with DCs who came to the ceremony said how nice it was

We are getting married in a few weeks and have only invited 32,siblings,parents,grandparentsand 4 friends
We are not telling cousins uncles etc anything. They know about it and some are coming to the church to watch and we dont mind,but we wanted a small inexpensive do with no frills (£3000 is the cost)
Its our day afterall

We're only having 15 guests at the ceremony and meal then a big evening party. So far no-one has asked or questioned us about it - possibly as we've only got parents/siblings and a couple of friends each there are no awkward issues about other extended family members. Also want to keep it all under 3 grand and people understand budget restrictions.