to tell DP he can't be at the birth

[jendaisy]

Due on Monday, and I know I am a hormonal nightmare at the moment. Had a proper go at DP tonight as I asked him for a cuddle and he wouldn't give me one. I can't remember the last time he cuddled me, I always ask and it never happens, he just doesn't want to touch me.

We haven't had sex since January because he has been too freaked out about hurting the baby. Which I respect if that's how he feels even though he is being a dumbass. But we don't even sleep in the same bed as he snores like a pig, and haven't done for months. So once in a while I want some kind of physical contact, even if it is a quick cuddle.

I don't know why I lost it with him tonight as I have the same reaction from him every day when I ask for a cuddle. I just screamed at him then threw 2 screwdrivers at the wall (they happened to be in my hand at the time).

So anyway, being about to have his baby any day, I really feel like saying that he can't be at the birth as I don't see what bloody use he will be if he won't actually touch me. Is he just going to stand there and spectate like a lemon? I have a doula so I wouldn't be on my own.

AIBU?

Hi all, just to let you know that jendaisy went into labour about 3 hours after posting this.

She has had her baby now, both her and baby are doing really well. Her DP was present at the birth as was her doula... good thing too as she says the birthing centre was very understaffed. Apparently her DP was great and kept going out to try and find MWs to come and assist when she was in transition. She's really happy now and says she had a positive labour experience, and a gorgeous baby of course!

U or NU to throw stuff around, she was 3 hours off going into labour when she posted so I think everyone should cut her some slack.

(i do have permission to post this as I warned her not to look at the thread as I thought it might upset her with a brand new newborn and lots of hormones/exhaustion)

Really happy to hear the birth went well. Congrats to jendaisy and her DP.

congratulations.no more hissy fits or throwing screwdrivers