I need some advice!! My daughter is 3 years old and has had a dummy, we always had to have it with us incase she decided that she needed it. She would have it in a lot.... and would talk with it in which would annoy all of us as we couldn't understand her. Her Grandpa asked her for it and she handed it over... not realising she was not getting it back. Once she gave it over I said to her she was very good to say goodbye to her dummy and she didn't respond.
That day she asked for it continually over the next 7 hours! Somehow she went to bed ok that night.... but now bedtimes are a disaster! I have a good bedtime routine because also have an 11week old but it doesn't seem to make one bit of difference to her. She will come out of her room over and over and want a cuddle, and want a bottle and will out right refuse to go to bed, she ends up crying and screaming. She doesn't ask for her dummy but this has only happened since then so I assume she is wanting it.
I feel bad because when I think back on the last 6 months it's been very full on for her... we've moved (away from her grandparents who she idolised) and had a second baby... I think we've done the wrong thing to make her give up the dummy.
What does everyone else think?
Our nights used to be uninterrupted but now she wakes and wants cuddles and needs to go to the toilet because of the extra milk bottles she is drinking. I am exhaused but I fear that if I give the dummy back I will look weak and she will think she can always win against me.
I don't know what to do about it.... I need your help!
Thanks fellow Mums. x o